When the child is already 4 years old, at this time it is already time:
1. Teach your child to obey mom and dad the first time.
2. Burden the child with small household chores that he can handle:
- put away your toys in an appropriate designated place;
- neatly fold and hang (on a chair) your clothes;
- help mom and dad (for example, bring small things);
- help set the table (carry forks, spoons, napkins).
3. As an adult, thank your child for caring for others and praise him for helping when he:
* performs his duties without being reminded;
- for doing things voluntarily with care for others (not duties: for example, wiping the table, watering flowers, or cleaning up after pets);
- for the desire to develop (for example, a child asks to teach him the alphabet).
4. It is necessary to give the child an example of caring for strangers or acquaintances, except for relatives:
- draw his attention to the fact that older children and young people give way to the elderly, the disabled and pregnant women, mothers with small children. It is important to explain why this is being done.
- how young people help grandmothers carry heavy bags;
- other examples of concern.
5. From childhood, teach your child to play sports. When choosing a sport, you can take into account his opinion and agree that since he has chosen, he will walk for a certain minimum of time, even if he doesn’t like it. By this we wean from the idea that parents will satisfy any of his desires every time, and we teach him to be responsible for his choice.
6. Limit entertainment that does not develop or develops little: cartoons, computer games, etc.
7. To teach that mom and dad have the right to allocate time / resources only for themselves, and, for example, leave them alone for 1 hour a day and play on their own at this time. For example, mom is wearing makeup or is busy with important work. It is important that the child does not develop selfishness. Example: when I told my son as a child: “Now play it yourself while I finish this thing.” And he knew that at this time it was forbidden to be capricious and divert attention to oneself without good reason. This is the parent STOP.