The owl could smile and start making friends, or you could offend yourself, be offended. And start arguing.
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Adults disapprove of insults between people, but with understanding.
As for household waste — I would like it to be less, but somehow it doesn’t work without it.
It naturally happened that for different ages and situations there is some culturally predetermined norm of resentment: it is not good to be offended within these limits, but it is allowed. If a person goes beyond this norm, he receives the insulting title of touchy.
A touchy person is one who is inclined to be offended, who has developed the habit of being offended. Resentment is a willingness to see resentment in everything and be offended (start, unwind and experience a feeling of resentment).
As a rule, the touchiness of character for a human child works to attract attention, as a psychological defense and to obtain internal and real benefits. An unfavorable hormonal background can also stand behind resentment, but the final reason is always the peculiarities of upbringing: a well-bred person is not touchy.
The touchy themselves are usually sure that the whole point is in others who treat them unkindly, while others see touchy people or naive manipulators, or poorly educated people. Adults who nevertheless have a habit of being offended try to wean themselves from this generally unproductive habit.
It is necessary to distinguish between children’s resentment as a natural age stage and resentment as a character trait of sufficiently adult people. Resentment is pathological, it is normal, there are people who are not touchy.
On the other hand, even people who are not touchy get offended by some things that hurt them. It happens that even a seasoned and cultured person can be offended by the word “Well, you fat cattle!” If for him his fullness is a sore spot in his soul.
At the same time, there are people who are not offended at all: as a rule, these are people who are mentally healthy and internally mature.
It is possible to wean yourself from the habit of being offended. First, it is important to understand that there is an unrealistic expectation behind your resentment. And secondly (sometimes firstly) to ask: “Why am I offended? What are my benefits from this? Do I really need for my purposes — resentment? At the same time, if a person does not know how to achieve his goal in difficult communication situations, resentment can wake up again and again. Output? Observe the behavior of successful people, teach yourself about life, master effective behavior in difficult interpersonal situations.
Childish touchiness
The child wants a lot of things, which turns out to be impossible. And how to understand it to an adult, how to explain it to a little one? It is difficult for an adult and a child to understand each other, and many actions of an adult by a child can be perceived as an insult. And if a child has already learned to be offended, it turns out that it is very easy to offend a child, even if you do not hold anything bad against him. See →
Touchiness Test
We resent people when their behavior does not meet our expectations. Sometimes our grievances are justified, but often they arise because of mere trifles. How easy it is to offend you, the next test will show, see →