Relationships between people — what and why?

There are always relationships between people. «Are you in a relationship?» or “I ended my relationship with him!” It’s just about these personal relationships.

Personal relations are the relations of people as carriers of individual cultural experience. In life, this is what people simply call: «relationships.»

Such relationships (one’s own or someone else’s, beloved or nasty) are determined by individual decisions or emotions, established views, attitudes and habits between people. Speaking about relationships with someone or something, they usually describe opportunities and limitations, desires and protests, rights and obligations of mutual influence.

Personal relationships — relationships are always informal. They are informal not in the sense that they are relations without conventions and without rules, but in the fact that in addition to rules and conventions, in personal relationships there is always a personal moment: personal views, personal attitudes, personal emotions. Relationships are a deeper level of interaction than the level of communication. There may be live communication, but not well-established relationships, and vice versa.

Relationships are wild and civilized, partner and not, established and difficult, close, intimate — and detached, formal, but the most common division of relations is the division into interpersonal and business relations. Interpersonal relationships are informal relationships driven by feelings and emotions. A business relationship is a relationship determined by the interest of the business. Corporate relations are relations determined by the tasks and attitudes of the management.

Established relationships between people are the basis of successful business, therefore those who value success must either be able to build relationships themselves, or have people who will provide them with this. On the other hand, there is an excessive, not justified by the interests of the case, passion for relationships: watch series with endless showdowns. People tend to engage in relationships (to relate) when they have nothing to do, there is no worthy business. Business people solve problems, slackers deal with relationships: creating problems out of the blue, enduring difficult relationships, and heroically (or tragically) solving them.

In the world of relations, women are better oriented and more capable; in the world of objects and in business relations, men.

What am I in a relationship?

To understand how you are in a relationship, it is useful to answer yourself (yourself) and get feedback on the following questions:

• Inwardly calm (anxious, accusing)
• Self-respecting (not believing in your worth)
• Open, trusting (hiding his thoughts and feelings)
• Living the soul and life of a loved one (I draw attention to myself)
• Honest in conflict situations (I manipulate the facts in my favor)
• Clear, disciplined (I do not comply with agreements)
• Active, constructive (I run away into experiences and hang problems on others)
• Understanding (feeling) himself and his beloved
• Warm, soft (often distant and cold)
• Sunny, even (I am dark, gloomy and evil)
• Bright, varied (often dull and gray)

Relationships and leash

A leash is a useful addition to relationships when both are tools, necessary elements for educating (children, employees, other people). A leash is cheaper and easier, but more dangerous in the long run. Relationships are more complicated and more expensive, but they pay off better in the future. See →