Do you think a sofa is just furniture? You’re wrong. Because for decades it has been the main tool for building a couple’s life. Without him, the crisis of relations that we are witnessing today would have been even more serious.
Alas, both for relationships and for the sofa, I speak in the past tense. After all, how was it once? He and she came home from work tired, exhausted by all sorts of problems. They dreamed of the moment when they could finally relax or just take a break. But then a new tiring race began, this time at home: to cook dinner, calm a capricious child … Finally, after the fuss, there came the serene enjoyment of the sofa, to which the TV was invariably attached. The furniture was just as important to relaxation as the picture screen, if not more so. He and she settled down freely and comfortably, observing the same ritual, in which signs of regression appeared. It is not necessary to curl up in a ball, the main thing is to stop controlling yourself, to feel how you dissolve into a soft half-sleep. Relax, but together, with a pleasant feeling of the presence of another person. Sometimes they exchanged a few words. Take Mark and Lisa as an example. She stretched out to her full height on the couch, leaving Mark to settle down on the remaining patch and massage her legs. But he was the absolute master of the remote control and switched channels as he pleased. Lisa explained to me that this was never a problem for her: all her happiness was concentrated in her legs.
But I’m telling you about times that are now gone. After all, individualism does its destructive work. Screens are multiplying in the house – computers, TVs, tablets, smartphones – and more and more often everyone in his corner watches what he likes. Everyone has their own screen. Everyone has his own sofa, his own bed, his favorite armchair, where you can enjoy these brief moments of regression alone – of course, you are ashamed to admit them, but they are so necessary! Even worse, my research on sleep rituals shows that some people deliberately space out bedtimes for different family members to avoid talking in bed. And to top it all, they single-handedly take possession of the sofa late in the evening and even fall asleep on it alone. Incredible! The sofa becomes the enemy of relationships in a couple! Fortunately, relationships are not limited to them. There are many other ways to spend time with your loved ones in an intimate setting. So we have to come up with new rituals of love regression.