We are glad to welcome you, dear readers of the site! Today we will consider what constitutes an excitable personality type from the classification of character accentuations according to Leonhard.
We also learn his strengths and weaknesses in order to better understand how to interact with him and build relationships so that they satisfy both parties.
Main characteristic
The excitable personality type is impulsive, unable to control their behavior and reactions.
He makes decisions instantly, without trying to weigh the pros and cons, to think carefully about the likely consequences of his choice. That is, he acts and lives, relying only on instincts.
Given the impulsiveness, such a person does not know how to endure, reconcile with something, to be in anticipation. If you want something, then the desire must be realized urgently, regardless of the conditions.
For example, in the middle of the night, he will break loose in search of a store where you can buy a certain type of ice cream.
Thinking is slower than other types. That is, if one person is able to quickly assimilate information, then this species will have to explain it several times, sorting out even obvious facts.
They pay a lot of attention to their appearance, go in for sports and are generally well developed physically. Assertive, purposeful, which is why they almost always achieve their goals, unless, of course, they accidentally make a fatal mistake by following their desires.
Relations
Naturally, such incontinence is the cause of conflicts with other people. In close relationships, he is able to cause a lot of pain and suffering, blurting out hurtful words on emotions. He says what first comes to mind, which is why he is often ashamed and feels guilty for his behavior.
At work, a little, runs to write a letter of resignation. Which management often signs, which forces them to recover in search of a new company, an enterprise that agrees to hire him.
Colleagues are not particularly disposed towards him, which is quite understandable. After all, they have to withstand outbreaks of aggression, and for this they are not paid extra.
Any little thing can cause irritation, then they didn’t look at him that way, then suddenly he realized that the salary did not suit him, or the authorities turned out to be not as fair as we would like.
In the family, intemperance often leads to assault, regardless of gender. Even a woman can throw her fists at her man when she loses her temper.
Not realizing that he is physically better developed, and she risks not only her life, but also her health if he, following her example, uses force.
Also, before getting married, it is important for future partners to think carefully about whether they are ready to endure and forgive betrayal. After all, as you remember, excitable personalities are unrestrained in their impulses, therefore, having felt sexual desire, they will immediately try to realize it.
And as a result of promiscuous sexual life, various venereal infections occur, illegitimate children appear.
Detstvo
Excitable children often cry for a long time, depriving parents of patience. They can be capricious for hours, and no matter how adults try to console them, calm them down or rein them in, all attempts will fail.
In the company of peers, they strive for power, they like to feel that others are afraid and obey their instructions. They bully those who are weaker, torture animals and stealthily commit dirty tricks.
Such a child is not childishly gloomy, he is rarely seen carelessly playing and laughing.
Appreciates and protects his personal belongings so much that he does not allow others to even take them in their hands to look.
Any attempt to take a toy or any other object without asking will be taken with hostility. That is, he will instantly flare up and attack the «offender» with swearing and fists, wanting to defend his property.
Teenagers usually run away from home, refuse to go to school, skipping classes. They can break into someone’s apartment, beat someone, but most often they are wanted because they left for another city in search of adventure.
It is enough just to believe the story about how beautiful it is there and there will be an irresistible desire to see everything with your own eyes. And, as you remember, excitable personalities are not able to answer for their actions, as well as anticipate events.
Therefore, children rush without money hitchhiking to the city of their dreams, not at all understanding what such a trip can lead to.
Cons
Impulsivity brings this type of character accentuation to the formation of addictions, that is, dependence. Basically, such people «fall out» into alcoholism.
For example, a conflict has arisen, and anger has reached an extreme point, which makes you want to calm down and recover as soon as possible.
Then there is an urge to quickly drink something strong in order to get drunk and relax. And, given the fact that outbreaks of aggression occur quite often, then a hand reaches for the bottle every time.
Conscience is poorly developed because feelings and impulses take over. Why and the high level of crime among representatives of this type of character. They do stupid things. Let’s say they saw some thing and wanted it, but if there is no money for the purchase, without hesitation, they will simply steal it.
All of the above minuses are the result of the inability to restrain one’s impulses. In a calm state, such people do not commit crimes, do not wander and are quite capable of taking care of loved ones.
That is, it cannot be said that they are cruel and immoral, they simply do not understand what certain actions can lead to. Therefore, they sincerely regret their deeds, if society condemns and punishes them.
After all, at such a moment they did not wish evil to others, unlike true delinquents, deprived in some cases of sympathy and kindness.
Recommendations
- Given the focus on instincts and desires, you should learn to slow yourself down on your own, listening to what the mind “prompts”. Give yourself more time than usual to make a decision. Remember Scarlett O’Hara’s line, «I won’t think about it today. I’ll think about it tomorrow»? So, take her as an example and slow yourself down every time you want to take action without having time to think about the likely consequences.
- Check out the article on how to develop an analytical type of thinking. This will help you in difficult situations to connect your head, and not just your feelings.
- Practice meditation and breathing techniques to help manage stress. In moments when you are worried, you will be able to use techniques, thanks to which calmness will come much faster than you are used to. And this will save you from many unplanned actions and unpleasant situations.
Completion
And that’s all for today, dear readers! We recommend that you familiarize yourself with each existing character accentuation, this will help you both in your career and in family life. You can start, for example, with an article about demonstrative personalities. And subscribe to site updates, so you will be aware of new publications.
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Take care of yourself and be happy!
The material was prepared by a psychologist, Gestalt therapist, Zhuravina Alina