Purpose

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Destiny (life purpose) is a life path assigned to a person even before his birth. Previously, destiny was understood simply and unequivocally, as a social destiny, as your life path, which is prescribed for you by your family and environment.

The son of a king, having been born, was brought up as a future king, he developed the abilities, skills and manners necessary for royal rule. His obvious destiny is to be king. The son of a merchant, born at the same (medieval) time, had a different destiny from childhood: to be the son of his father, to become a merchant. The son of a warrior was destined to grow up as a warrior, the girl was destined to marry whomever her parents chose. It’s all social purpose.

At present, social purpose is quite rare; children from their school years themselves can participate in determining their life path. Nevertheless, almost every person thinks about his destiny, because each of us has at least his own natural abilities. If you have developed a mathematical mind or artistic talent since childhood, perhaps your destiny is to realize yourself in these areas. It’s great when girls think about their destiny to be a mother, however, if a girl is talented in different areas, she finds herself in a situation of not an easy choice.

The search for their Destiny is often occupied by people who have little personal success, for whom it is not enough to become status, wealthy and socially packaged. But does the choice of life path come down to this alternative? — No, the peaks of personal growth and development can be different.

Many people have gained popularity with the idea of ​​a mystical destiny — the idea of ​​a real, genuine life path, destined for a person by some Higher power. In contrast to the social purpose, things are very worldly, the mystical is usually written with a capital letter, like the Destiny of a person. The popularizer of this view was the fashionable writer Paulo Coelho (“The Alchemist”), however, even before him, mystics or simply people with mystical, childish and romantic moods naturally believed in their mystical Destiny.

According to the cultural myth of mystical destiny, each person has (receives) his own destiny from birth. A person is given to feel his Destiny — according to the Signs and internal feelings. Fulfillment of the destination makes a person’s life joyful and worthy, filled with meaning, not fulfillment — automatically and hopelessly dooms to melancholy and experiencing the meaninglessness of existence.

It is impossible to scientifically prove neither the presence nor the absence of his Destiny in a person’s life. Whether a person has his Purpose or not is not a question of science, but of faith. As a personal experience, faith in one’s destiny has its advantages: as biographical studies have shown, those who left a worthy mark in the history of mankind, as a rule, believed in their special destiny in childhood. As a child, believing in your Destiny is good and right. In youth and adulthood, using this as a situational positive belief and uplifting metaphor is wise. Seriously, outside of childhood, believing in your Destiny is not very productive. For a weak personality, this belief is dangerous, but for a mature one it is not very necessary. For a mature person to seriously, unconditionally believe in his Destiny, it is rather debatable and more often there is a manifestation of childish centropupism.

It is reasonable and natural to take into account your natural inclinations, but there is no reason to believe that the Universe has prepared some special path for you personally.

All the talk that by finding your calling / purpose / mission (whatever you call it), you will solve all your problems is a cheap scam. Nothing in life is meant for you. There is no magic pill for finding happiness. There is no business that will make you happy either — if you do not know how to work and do not know the elementary basics to be satisfied with life. There is nothing ready-made for you in life. And digging inside yourself is useless. You will only have what you make yourself.

Even more specifically: if you don’t do a single thing you love, you won’t have one. And I have a dozen or more favorite things that are quite drawn to the vocation and destiny. Why? Because I invested in them, I know them perfectly, mastered them perfectly — and fell in love. This is not difficult: once you do something perfectly, you almost always start to like it. Do not be lazy, master perfectly your most important things, and they will become your favorite!

I have dozens of favorite things to do. And if suddenly one thing disappears, suddenly I can’t do it, my arms / legs fell off, something collapsed there — yes, I will be just as happy to do another favorite thing. And if it suddenly disappeared, they didn’t give it, they destroyed it — and I have a third favorite thing. And in every business you can be happy, you can move it, achieve great results, wake up early in the morning with pleasure, if you just know how to work. More precisely, if you know how to work efficiently, know how to achieve results and know how to do it beautifully.

How are you looking for or how is your favorite thing done? — See another article about this, «How to find your favorite business.»

Good luck to you!