There is psychotherapy as an occupation and there is psychotherapy as a worldview. This article is about psychotherapy as a worldview, about psychotherapy as a life attitude. The foundation of this attitude is that a person is weak and helpless, sick or soon to fall ill. The task of this installation is to protect a person from loads and stresses, to create peace and the most comfortable living conditions for him.
Something from the series: «Put on a hat and tie a scarf — you’ll catch a cold!».
The psychotherapist knows that a pessimist is a well-informed optimist, and if he believes in the best, then only out of hopelessness. In his picture of the world, life is complicated, and we are always surrounded by stress: stress at work is accompanied by inevitable conflicts in the family, in the conditions of the collapse of the family institution, strong relationships are impossible, any couple will experience periodic crises superimposed on age crises, inevitable in the life of every person. There are no healthy people in such a tense environment, it is impossible to control your emotions. Every year more and more sick children are born, all children are exposed to information overload, teenagers are surrounded by drugs and pornography. As a specialist, the psychotherapist sees how difficult it is to move forward in life: clients are hindered by birth trauma, negative scenarios, parental programming, muscle shell and emotional blocks.
Do you still have the will to live?
Everyone has problems, and those people who think that they have no problems are the people with the most problems, who have closed themselves in their shell not only from others, but also from themselves. The psychotherapist knows that putting his soul into his work is dangerous, that all teachers, doctors and his fellow psychotherapists with such a level of stress sooner or later will face emotional burnout, emptiness in the soul and depression … He knows this from his own experience.
If a client comes with life goals and the question of how to achieve them, the psychotherapist will be interested in why he needs it at all, but not so that the client more accurately defines his goal, but just in case — what if you can not do all this and not strain yourself ? If the client is still determined to achieve something, then it is better to train him so that he sets a goal that is more realistic, that is, not so big, but smaller. And be sure to check for environmental friendliness — God forbid, in the process of achieving this goal, we will strain someone?
If the client does something bad, then the psychotherapist understands that 1) psychotrauma is to blame, 2) it is not the person himself who does it, but one of his subpersonalities, 3) everything that the person does is dictated to him by his unconscious, 4) the person made the best choice possible for him. One way or another, there is no demand from the client himself.
If the client is lazy, distracted and does not start doing what he should, it means: 1) the client has wrong, not his goals, imposed by society, 2) subpersonalities are to blame, 3) you need to work with fears, 4) the client does not have enough resources and you definitely need to rest .
In order to do something right now, you need a resource state, and a resource state comes when there is a necessary setting in the unconscious. In order for the unconscious to receive this installation, it is necessary to deal with one’s true intentions, and then plunge into meditation and present the desired result in detail. If this does not help, you need to collapse the anchors to stop the internal dialogue and start negotiating with your unconscious. If the unconscious does not respond, you need to go into vipassana for seven days and negotiate with the unconscious no later than. As a rule, after that, something must be done immediately.
If a child watches TV and does not respond to the request of the parents, it is obvious to the psychotherapist that the parents have lost contact with the child. To establish contact with the child, the psychotherapist will recommend showing more attention to the child, communicating with him more, asking about his feelings, playing his games and in no case destroy the fragile contact with parental requirements. If a child abandons lessons and plays computer games, it is clear that the child has low self-esteem, lack of faith in himself, in the ability to realize himself at school, and hence the avoidance motivation. Apparently, parents do not support the child enough in his aspirations and should praise him more. If, in the course of such interactions, the child begins to make more scandals and send parents to hell, this indicates positive changes in the child’s psyche: in the process of self-identification, the child gains self-confidence and the ability to make his own decisions.
If you want to know my attitude, I will say it easily:
- If one of my students writes works in the spirit of such a worldview, he will not receive a UPP diploma. UPP graduates do not engage in such stupidity, bordering on sabotage.
- As a seasoning for a dish, in small doses it can be useful. 20/80 — this ratio is acceptable. 20% — similar psychotherapy, 80% — healthy psychology, psychology of growth and development. This is the synthonic approach we like!