Children very often feign psychosomatics, sometimes inventing bad health and “My stomach hurts”, sometimes actually causing illnesses in themselves, allowing them to avoid situations that are problematic for them. The easiest, homely way to figure out whether a child really has a real disease or not is to create a situation for the child when it will be unprofitable for him to get sick, and being healthy is profitable and interesting.
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Source: My son has psychosomatics — a frequent thing: he really has a headache or stomach, or some other “terrible illness” happens. Pale, blue under the eyes, even the temperature can rise — a heartbreaking sight. “Debriefing” helps us a lot in such situations. If there is time, I ask my son to think about why he might have a headache (stomach, “bear disease”). Then with leading questions we get to the point. Yes, we first analyze each sore. And if there is an obvious reason (control, a trip with friends to the mountain or a party in the class) — most likely — this is the reason for the «illness» and there is. If time is limited, I myself call a spade a spade: I didn’t prepare, now I’m worried. Then, in both cases, we consider all the “most terrible” scenarios for the development of the situation. It turns out that, in any case, «not a single animal will suffer.» Nothing irreparable will happen. Then some kind of “magic breakfast” is given, which is “very conducive” to any mental activity. And to school. The minimum is four.