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Only a few of us are satisfied with ourselves — with our appearance, body, general physical condition. Even if everything looks great from the outside, we will find something to complain about. For example, to an imperfect stomach. Why are women often dissatisfied with this part of the body? How can you love your «imperfection»? The psychologist says.
Many of us have an idea of what an ideal belly should look like. True, focusing on this image, we do not take into account particular genetic characteristics, age and related life circumstances, because of which our bodies look different.
And when the ideal from our thoughts meets the reality that is reflected in the mirror, we have many questions: why is the stomach not flat? Why not tight? Why are there stretch marks, but the press cubes are not visible?
Belly as psychological armor
It is important to understand that the female belly has a sacred meaning. This is the center of life force, which is responsible for communication and communication with the outside world in general.
The body every day experiences a huge psychological impact: our self-doubt, a sense of imperfection, dissatisfaction with ourselves, aggression and pressure from the outside. Therefore, protecting his center, he hides his stomach behind a dense layer of fat.
What does our body say
Every woman has areas where extra pounds are deposited most actively. For example, with an apple body type, most of the fat is collected in the abdomen — this indicates a desire to be protected and significant.
Pay attention to the area of the abdomen where the weight is localized. This is of great importance.
A series of lives
This zone is responsible for our sexuality and relationships with a partner — female energy is concentrated here. If you are worried about how she looks, you should answer the following questions for yourself:
- Do you feel safe in a relationship with a man?
- How do you feel about men in general?
- Can you afford to be relaxed and sexy?
- Can you enjoy?
Waist
Is your waist invisible because of unwanted centimeters? Perhaps you put other people’s interests ahead of your own. Who doesn’t have a waist? Pregnant women who do not care about their own interests, but about what the unborn child needs.
Small of the back
Excess weight on the lower back speaks of fear and own impotence in front of something serious. This is a kind of protective pillow from the back.
belly after pregnancy
If after childbirth you began to acutely feel a lack of attention — the world revolves around the child, and you don’t even have enough time to sleep — then the body will not part with excess weight. He remembers that during pregnancy you received a lot of warmth and care. He remembers that there was a stomach — there was love.
What to do? Find time for yourself, give yourself that care and love that is so lacking. You are not only a mother, but also a wife, sister, daughter. Female. Live all your social roles — this is good not only for you and your stomach, but also for the child.
Pseudo-pregnant belly
It happens that the stomach looks like a woman is pregnant, which is not at all true. As in the previous case, this may be due to a lack of attention, care, love and rest. Or to relate to family history: our body remembers stories of pregnancies, abortions and miscarriages, even if they happened to our relatives.
In this case, you need to let go of unlived feelings, “get sick” of tragic stories — and then the centimeters will also dissolve.
Belly like an airbag
Fat can serve as protection against sudden circumstances, especially if there have been cases of abdominal trauma in the family or in the life of the woman herself: for example, someone was hit in this area. Then extra centimeters are needed to protect our body in case of danger.
Why can’t you lose weight
Being unnecessarily demanding of ourselves, we will not be able to bring our body into the desired shape. Restrictions in nutrition, playing sports through “I don’t want to”, rigid limits … This scheme does not work. We break down and break our own rules, and the excess weight comes back after a while.
You can’t lose weight by being stressed all the time. And even more so if you forget about self-love: constantly get angry and feel guilty for breakdowns.
In addition, we are accustomed to devote most of our lives to the fight against weight. Because of this, our subconscious mind has no idea what to spend «weight loss» time on when it is freed. And not in a hurry to change anything.
How to accept your body
In order for forms to change, you need to allow yourself to be who you are. Release accumulated emotions and give yourself what you lack: vivid impressions, care, attention. What would you do, how would you express yourself, if your stomach was “perfect”? You can start doing this right now.
It seems to us that life will begin when we lose weight. For example, we will go dancing or go on a date. But everything works the other way around: first we do what we want, then we get slimmer. If, of course, we want it.