The term psychorigide is used frequently and often abusively. The psychorigid personality is complex. It’s a psychological problem. 

For psychologists, the psychorigid personality is a defense mechanism linked to obsessive disorders. We thus speak of obsessive personality. The psychorigid person wishes to rule and control everything because he is an anxious person who cannot adapt to upheavals. Controlling everything is one way to contain your anxieties. 

Obsessive personality affects 4% of the population and is more common in men. 

For psychoanalysts, psychorigidity is explained by the fact that the person has too idealized his parents. As an adult, she likes to obey the rules as she obeyed her directions as a child. 

Psychorigid people exhibit a certain number of behaviors: difficulty evolving, little adaptability, great difficulty moving forward, need a lot of time to make unimportant decisions. Psychic people are also not very warm, even cold, even with people they like. They also generally have an obsessive and perfectionist side to the extreme, which pushes them to want to manage everything, control everything (everything must be organized, planned. Everything must be tidy…). They are always right and very rarely question themselves. 

• The psychorigid personality can be helped by brief therapies (hypnosis, cognitive-behavioral therapies, EMDR-eye movement desensitization and reproches sing- or desensitization and retreatment by eye movements, body therapies…).

The goal is to work on behaviors to acquire new ones. Psychoanalysis is also a way of understanding why one has become psychorigid and of being able to change.

• Building confidence and self-esteem through playful activities can also help the psychoactive person to let go. The goal is to reconnect this person to their emotions and make them understand that taking pleasure in life is possible.

Living with a psychoactive person is difficult. To live with such a personality at best, it is advisable not to encourage him in his obsessions, his perfectionism and his need to rule everything. You can help her by setting priorities for her things to do, which calms her anxieties. If you want her to do a little as you want and not as she decides, use the “we” and not the “I”: “for once, we could do it like that…”. The main thing is not to rush the psychorigid person and to try to maintain the dialogue as much as possible. To allow it to evolve and you to assert your point of view …