Human psychology is also the internal causes of human behavior that make it go beyond logic, expediency or reasonable social expectations. When a person’s behavior is rational and expedient, fits into the social framework and logic, the question of psychology is not raised (it is not raised by people with a business approach. For people who love to talk about psychology, there is always a reason for this). And when something does not fit into the rational, when states, feelings and other unpredictable internal features begin to influence a person’s behavior, a conversation begins about psychology — human psychology.
I planned things, but I don’t want to do it, I took up something else. It was necessary to remain silent — no, he said. I wanted to say softly, but emotions overwhelmed …
I went to the pharmacy, and went to the store. Little money, but could not resist, bought an expensive bag. I forgot to call — I can’t calm down, I’m scolding myself. I need to go to the dentist, but I don’t go, I pull the rubber.
All this is not rational, not expedient, nobody needs it, but it happens. It’s internal and psychological…
When suddenly there is a failure in behavior, when behavior is illogical, when behavior goes beyond the rational and expedient, one of the explanations for this is «psychology»: Well, what do you want, he has such a psychology!
It is clear that there may be other explanations for the strange and inappropriate (seemingly) in our behavior: tired, sick, bribed — we are also social and biological beings, and not just psychological.
If a person is at an average or low level of requirements for him, then attention to his psychology can be both positive and negative. His psychology can be a source of both trouble (“I was confused … I was distracted as usual …”) and resources: “I found strength in myself! Gathered with spirit! He brought up diligence! If a person lives at the level of the highest requirements (a professional athlete, an employee of an elite business), then a conversation about human psychology arises only in a situation of failures in his activity and almost always has a negative connotation.
While everything is in order, we do not remember psychology. What psychology? Everything is cool, as always (this is true only for business people. For people who like to worry, talking about feelings and states is always interesting). But if a failure occurs, and the reason for this is not a disease or death, then the reason is in psychology.
If employees begin to attribute a large number of their failures to psychological causes and build a whole psychological defense out of this, managers begin to qualify this as Psychology: inadequate fascination with inadequate psychological topics and sick psychotherapy.
“You know, I feel that your order is not authentic to me …” — when such conversations begin, the work ends.
The psychology of a person that opens up his hidden possibilities and makes it possible to act and live more efficiently is a healthy psychology. The psychology of a person that explains his failures and calls to understand, accept, be more tolerant of deviation from order and due is a sick psychology.
It seems that sick psychology is a consequence of the feminine approach to life↑.