The psychologist with his post provoked a war in the comments. However, it is quite predictable.
The opinion that a woman on maternity leave becomes stupid is so deeply rooted in our society that it cannot be eradicated. Many mothers even complain that they do not want to hire them later, forcing them to be transferred to another position. Like, during the time you were on maternity leave, you forgot everything. Such statements almost always create a storm. At the epicenter of one such was the famous psychologist Mikhail Labkovsky.
Of course, he himself is to blame. He wrote in his microblog that sitting with children does not make women smarter.
“Many women say that for the sake of their children, they put an end to their careers and deal only with them. I have said more than once that endless sitting at home leads to outright degradation, ”Labkovsky said.
According to the psychologist, a mother who dissolves in children can give them very little.
“They also need to develop not only physically, but also mentally, mentally,” he explains.
Both mother and father should be able to share something with the child, to tell him something. It should be interesting with mom. And how can this be if her only interest is a child?
“Development is not only and not so much numerous circles as communication with parents,” says the psychologist.
Colleagues of Mikhail Labkovsky also say that communication is much more important than all the tutors and educators in the world.
“Children need to be dealt with. Involved in a warm conversation, when you really listen to the child, and he will never have a feeling of uselessness, ”says psychologist and psychotherapist Mikhail Vinogradov.
It sounds terrible, but it’s a fact: if a mother realizes herself only in taking care of the family, she gradually ceases to be respected. After all, she can not captivate anything.
A storm immediately unfolded in the comments.
“Yes, Mikhail is mired in stereotypes,” some are indignant.
“You don’t have to do work and career, you can just explore the world with your children. Degradation means having children, a nanny and at the same time staying at home, doing manicure and watching TV series, ”others are sure.
“If you sit stupidly at home and deal only with children and cooking, the roof goes. But whoever likes what, ”some others shrug their shoulders.
There are a lot of comments to the post. But the psychologist did not react to them. Apparently, everything he wanted to say, he said so.
Interview
How do you feel about sitting on maternity leave?
The decree is needed. Maybe someone gets stupid from him, but normal women are unlikely
The first year of a child’s life should be spent with him. Not to throw at grandmothers.
Those who dissolve completely in the child are foolish. Or a husband. We must not forget about ourselves.
For each individually. There is nothing wrong with being on maternity leave. And there is nothing wrong not to sit.
I can’t imagine how you can sit at home for a year and a half. Of course you’ll be dumb.