Psychologists, like representatives of other professions, especially those working with people, have their own professional characteristics, also called professional deformation. Of course, for different people these features are expressed to varying degrees, there is a direct correlation with work experience, but in one way or another they are observed starting from students.
- The psychologist always has in mind the subjectivity of any opinion, with the exception of cases confirmed by statistics and the conclusions from them that follow with logical certainty. One of the main rules of a practical psychologist is not to transfer your problems to the interlocutor, therefore, any opinion about another person is served with indispensable introductory phrases “it seems to me”, “I think”, “in my opinion”, etc.
- A psychologist necessarily has a more developed reflection than representatives of other professions. Therefore, he rarely confuses his attitude and his goals, which is why he can sometimes look like a cynical phlegmatic.
- A psychologist is very familiar with how often people make mistakes. Hence, the psychologist is more critical of the feeling of being right, believing that this is just a feeling, and more respect for the possible rightness of the interlocutor.
- One of the tools of a psychologist is to work with perceptual positions. Therefore, a psychologist will rarely say to another what he would not like to hear himself. For the same reason, he will not say what can be turned in the opposite direction. For the same reason, in a conversation, he evaluates not only his position, but also how others perceive it. If a person does not do this, he is not quite a psychologist.
- The psychologist avoids using nominalizations and tries to be careful with logical connectives — he knows that this leads to errors.
- The psychologist is an extremely tolerant being. Imagine, a person comes to your reception and says that at night he goes out into the streets and kills old women with an ax because of 20 kopecks. You will drive him away with the words: “How dare you come to me, scoundrel and scoundrel!”? Or will you work with him? If you work, will you treat him with hatred and contempt? Needless to say, if you don’t make friends with the client, then there will be little good.
- The psychologist is well aware that conflict is an extreme means of resolving issues, rather ineffective. Therefore, provokes him only when it is clearly necessary. For the same reason, the psychologist never accuses anyone of evil intentions, even if it occurred to him.
- The psychologist knows well that no one, with the exception of severe pathologies, wishes evil. Just different concepts of good. Therefore, psychologists usually do not speak sharply negatively about anyone.