Advises Alexander Rapoport: Is your tendency to guardianship, to worry about others, is this your problem? — No, it’s not a problem. This is my feature. I am like that!
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Psychological features can be negative: touchiness, forgetfulness, tearfulness, irritability, can easily get confused or angry. Tendency to argue and object, propensity to gamble, interest in peeping and eavesdropping, interest in gossip or nightmares.
Are such features problems? When can they be considered problems?
If a person does not strive for anything, he may not see a problem in anything. Well, I argue, well, I lose, well, I get upset — so what? It suits me.
If a person does not think about others (either he simply does not think, or considers it superfluous for himself), then these features will not be a problem for him, even if they seriously affect the interests of others.
You can talk about problems only with those who have something expensive, important, loved in life. Who have their own goals that they strive for, and there are people whom they respect and love.
If you have a goal to go to college or find a decent job, your disorganization, your tendency to be distracted by everything that is horrible, to stay up after midnight, you are already aware of not just “I’m like this”, but as your problem.
If you understand that your stoop, tendency to object or use foul language will become a model for your children, will become their feature and problem, will be transmitted from them (and it will be transmitted!) To your grandchildren and granddaughters — you will understand that you have problems.
And when there are problems, it’s time to set tasks. See →