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The playground: a place of tension
Recess is a moment of relaxation during which the children are left to their own devices. Distant from the adult’s gaze, they thus lose all notion of restraint and let off steam among themselves, which often leads the strongest to use their power over the most sensitive. Especially at this age, they still do not distinguish the difference between playing with another child and pushing him, pushing him, hitting him. Be careful not to dramatize the situation too quickly, because the tensions and Conflicts that occur in the playground also allow the child to grow.
Decipher the signs of discomfort
Nightmare, sadness, stomach ache, fear of going to school, change in behavior at home … are all signs that indicate that your child is suffering of unease. However, this can be due to hostility from other children in the playground as well as a bunch of other issues. Only your vigilance and talking with your child will determine if this hostility is the cause of his discomfort.
Helping your child to assert himself at school
While showing your support, be careful not to lock your child in a position of victims. On the contrary, support him in his autonomy by pushing him to find for himself, in his own resources, how to solve this problem. The best is to unravel with him what could have caused this situation so that he understands the reasons for it. You can also show him under game form, by taking on the role of the victim and your child that of the aggressor, how to react if the situation reoccurs, how to call out to nearby adults and defend yourself against attacks. By strengthening their self-confidence, your child will manage to no longer take these signs of hostility too seriously, nor to let themselves be touched by them. mockery and eventually make other friends.
Break the isolation
The single parents who do not dare to set foot in school, never speak to other parents of students, nor to the teacher, generate children more easily victims. The latter indeed reproduce the behavior of their parents by staying in their corner at recess or compensate by over-violence. They are thus spotted by the other children, because they are already posed as different, which favors the role of scapegoat. It is therefore essential that parents come into contact with each other and do not hesitate to meet the teacher, but without doing too much, because parents who are too present also risk seeing their child being teased and being called baby in the playground.
Involve the teacher
The teacher is used to this kind of problem and she usually has a clearer view of the risks. She can therefore tell you if she has actually noticed that your child is regularly taken to task by a particular classmate or start to observe and keep you informed. This will make it easier for you to talk about it with your child based on the information she provides to you. In addition, your report will also allow the teacher to intervene with the incriminated children if the situation persists. On the other hand, do not try to solve the story yourself by going to see their parents so as not to risk reproducing with them what is happening between the children.
Consider a change of school
If the teacher does not react, do not hesitate to turn to the school principal. And if your child is in great pain, or even mistreated, and their discomfort is not taken into consideration, then you may need to think about it. change establishment. This option should not be considered in a rush, but in last resort and without dramatizing, so as not to maintain in the child this negative image of victim and scapegoat.