Principles and approaches in raising children

When raising a child, you need to keep in mind that the child is active and lively, and to a greater extent solves his problems than is brought up by us. We want the child to study with us or study on his own, and at this time the child has his own affairs and interests, his own life. To what extent can we intervene in his life, accomplish what we want, make sure that he learns? How can we contribute to this?

Or to interest the child, or to force, or to influence the child through the environment and lifestyle, more broadly — to carry out the upbringing of life.

Men and women have their own principles and approaches, in different cultures and traditions, it all depends on the goals of education and the general philosophy of life, plus you should always take into account the characteristics of age. So you need to figure it out!

The main types of nurturing relationships: subordination, subordination, cooperation, co-creation. According to the tasks, it is possible to single out the necessary, sufficient and risky education. See →

Men and women have significantly different styles and approaches to parenting (see →). Women’s style — to live the soul of a child.

With a good teacher, the child does what he wants, but he wants what the teacher needs. Disciplinary approach and free education. Models of education.

Education at different ages

In Japan, the approach is widespread, according to which a child under 5 years old is a King, from 5 to 15 years old — a Slave, from 15 years old — a Friend↑.

Raising a child from 0 to 2 years old See→, Friends of our children See→

Moral education of a child at different ages

How to Take the Best of Western and Asian Parenting Traditions

It is interesting to compare the Western and Asian (for example, Chinese) traditions of education: they are seriously different. It seems that the Western tradition of upbringing has made too much of a tilt towards “saving”, towards “creating life and spiritual comfort”, towards non-judgmental and inclusiveness, forgetting about the need to prepare a child for life, the need to educate discipline, educate strong-willed qualities, the ability to keep tension and overcome difficulties. When a child essentially becomes the head of the family, telling his parents what he likes and what makes him uncomfortable now, nothing good will come of it in the long run. Asian parents mean strength, not fragility, in their children and are ready to demand the highest results from their children, expressing their assessments of success and failure as frankly as possible. Western parents can only ask the child to try to do «the best he can.» The Eastern mother will say: «You are lazy, all your classmates have passed you.» Asians believe that the best motivation for a child is his real success, and the desire to do something comes after the fact that the child begins to do any business with high quality. Activities that used to be unpleasant begin to bring joy, and this, in turn, stimulates even more hard work. See →

Wider — it is worth getting acquainted with different national and cultural traditions. Raising children in different cultures and traditions turns out to be very different, and this is very instructive! See →