I had an incompatibility with my husband’s sperm (i.e. my mucus was destroying my partner’s sperm.) After seven inseminations and three failed IVFs, the teacher advised us to stop because, as he told me so “diplomatically” I had nothing more to give.
We turned to adoption and we had the happiness, after four years of waiting, to have an adorable little 3 months old. It was such a shock that I had my period for 2 months then a total cessation of a month … Still, fifteen months after the arrival of my little one, I got pregnant …! today the mother filled with two adorable children: a little Brice of 34 months and a little Marie of 8 months and 3 weeks. Brice made me a mother and Marie a woman. The circle is complete.
LDCs are not a panacea. It’s hard, exhausting (physically and psychologically) and medical teams often lack psychology. For them too it is a failure when you do not succeed and they make you feel it. So when it works, we say it’s great, but unfortunately we don’t talk enough about chess! In addition, it quickly becomes like a drug: it is difficult to stop. I have spoken to other women who have been there and they had the same feeling. We want it to work so badly that we only think about it.
Personally, I had a feeling of guilt, I felt “abnormal”. It’s hard to make people understand, but I resented this body that was not doing what I wanted. I think that we should look into this problem, because it is still curious that more and more of women fail to give birth even though they have nothing physiologically. Doctors as much as their patients rush too quickly into over-medicalization. Regarding the love that one can have for one’s child, adopting or giving birth is exactly the same thing. For me Brice will always remain THE MIRACLE.
Yolande