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Future parents not always equal when it comes to pregnancy
“Throughout the duration of pregnancy, it is common for a gap to set in between the pregnant woman, who experiences this phenomenon in her privacy, and the future dad (or co-parent) who does not see her body. edit, ”begins the doula Virginie Franqueza.
If some co-parents feel invested in their new mission as soon as the happy event is announced, for others, it may take longer… “It varies but, in general, the fact of seeing the belly of the rounded mother helps the father become aware of the upcoming birth, ”notes Virginie. Sometimes the second parent even “feels the pregnancy” in a physiological sense. It is the phenomenon of the convent which manifests itself in weight gain and sometimes nausea for them. “The mother’s state of health also affects awareness. Nausea, pain or bed rest naturally force the co-parent to engage in the good progress of the pregnancy.
On the other hand, if others take advantage of these 9 months to devote themselves to their work, it is not necessarily a sign of disengagement. But one way to invest the material responsibility of their home. In this case, only dialogue will be able to defuse misunderstandings, ”advises Virginie.
Dialogue: the key to finding your place in pregnancy
To help you lift the taboos, do not hesitate to be accompanied by a doula like Virginie. His role ? Guide you, from the baby’s plan to birth, on the path to parenthood. The expert may, for example, invite you to take time for yourself, as a duo, to regularly discuss the pregnancy and the unborn child.
A tip: “In anticipation of the day of childbirth, some mothers prepare a daddy box or co-parent! This is a birth gift given on the day of delivery. It can contain a t-shirt with a message, sweets or more symbolic gifts, ”she advises. A great way to pay tribute to the great team that you form!
Methods and tips to be involved in pregnancy
Support for the reception of the baby, thehaptonomie allows the future co-parent to develop his emotional and relational capacities with the unborn child. “During the sessions, parents learn to come into contact with their child by laying hands on the stomach and by gentle rocking techniques that help relaxation,” explains V. Franqueza.
La Bonapace method also allows to give an active role to the co-parent. “It is a mixture of tools to manage pain and encourage the commitment of the father or co-parent, which requires the presence of the duo”, details the doula.
Finding your place can also mean making material choices such as the color of a baby sling, baby diapers from the Lotus Baby brand or the changing table. “In any case, opening up the question of equipment is a way of approaching that of the education of children, breastfeeding and mothering, for example”, raises Virginie.