He left me pregnant
“He didn’t want to be a father, I knew that, but I was hoping deep down that he would change his mind when I told him. It was serious between us, we had been together for 4 years, I was 21 at the time, he 19 years older. This baby arrived by accident, probably because of a missed pill. As soon as I learned of my pregnancy, it was obvious to me that I could not have an abortion. But when I announced it to my boyfriend, he immediately decided to break up. At first, I wanted to give him time to digest the news and I called him back. He told me very clearly that we would get back together only if I terminated the pregnancy. A real shock. Whether I like it or not, our paths would separate if I kept this child. My decision was made. I felt sadness and anger, feeling like I was wrong about him. This man was able to abandon me while I was carrying his child. “
An eventful pregnancy
“Laurent never came back. At the time I was living in a hostel for young workers. It was inconceivable to have a baby in this place. They summoned me and told me that I had to find other accommodation. I contacted a social worker who accompanied me throughout the pregnancy. She directed me to the structures that help future solo mothers. But everything got complicated. I had a lot of health problems. Pre-labor at six months resulted in me being hospitalized for the rest of the pregnancy. ”
“During these nine months, I have been able to count on the unwavering support of my loved ones. A friend in particular supported me until the end since it was even she who was by my side on the day of the birth. On the other hand the pregnancy was not well received by my family. They moved away but after the birth everything was fine.
If I had to sum up this period of my life, I would speak of battle. Battle to keep my child as long as possible in my womb. Battle to suppress the romantic feelings I still had for the father. Despite everything, I have fond memories of it. I had a good experience carrying a baby, to feel it move. My advice ? Even if it is not easy, we must move forward. Saying that we are no longer alone, that we have a responsibility towards this little being who is going to arrive. I was not left alone. Looking back, I think that’s what allowed me to overcome this ordeal and welcome my baby in the best conditions. “