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This condition can poison the first months of motherhood. But for some reason they still do not take him seriously.
Fortunately, the world is increasingly talking about postpartum depression and these conversations are starting to listen. The stars talk about their experience, in Great Britain even the royal family is worried about women’s mental health, and here we began to discuss this topic not from the position of “it’s just a woman’s whim from idleness”, but seriously. However, there are still plenty of myths about postpartum depression. We have collected five of the most tenacious.
1. Depression? You are the one to blame
A deep delusion says that a woman is to blame for her depressed state. Accordingly, she can also cope herself, there is nothing to indulge her here. In fact, no one has yet been able to control the work of their own brain and hormonal system. In some cases of depression, young mothers do manage on their own with time. Others require the help of a specialist, and you should not hesitate to ask for it. Sometimes depression is so severe that everything ends badly, so the sooner you go to a therapist with your problem, the better.
2. Everyone goes through it
Not really. Not everyone is depressed, not everyone has postpartum psychosis. There is not even a clear picture of what depression looks like: someone is lying with his face against the wall, someone is running around like a run-down, some refuse to eat, others, on the contrary, eat everything. The only thing you can focus on here is your own feelings. If something bothers you, talk about it. Better to play it safe and overdo it than to miss the development of depression.
3. Depression occurs only in women
And again, no. Yes, mothers have more worries. Scientists have even found that fathers are quite capable of getting enough sleep when a baby is in the house. Mother – no. But this does not mean that all dads are the same and that they cannot have the stress of having a baby. Sometimes a man feels even more depressed because he feels very insecure about his new role. At the same time, he tries to meet the expectations assigned to him, and this is not always easy.
4. You just need to endure it and not succumb to weaknesses
Again, depression is not weakness. It does not make a woman a bad mother or a weak person. Trying to give up on your condition, crush your feelings and try your best to look like a strong woman is fraught with serious consequences. The depression from this self-neglect will only intensify, fueled by a powerful stream of stress. Taking care of yourself can help: eating healthy, getting regular sleep, even having a heart-to-heart conversation with someone you trust.
5. The main thing is that it will not harm the child
Depression can start even before childbirth – it is called prenatal. And it may well affect the health of the unborn baby. Doctors say that children of mothers who have experienced prenatal depression weigh less at birth and are more capricious. The worst thing is that there is a risk of premature birth. Therefore, if you understand that you are falling into melancholy, be sure to talk to a specialist: not only for yourself, but also for the sake of the future baby.