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She doesn’t eat anything at all.
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Positive manipulations between close people, as a rule, are perceived positively.
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Positive manipulations are psychological influences on a person that evoke feelings and intentions in him without his participation and in addition to his conscious control. The main thing is that this is an influence on a person in the name of mutual interests or the interests of a partner.
Beautiful video illustration «She eats nothing at all» from the film «Taste of Life». Situation: the girl’s mother died, she is now brought up by her aunt (the chef of a cool restaurant) — and does not eat anything … She protests against life. The chef’s assistant, a cheerful young man, seduces her to «eat». Carries out a deliberate psychological impact — hidden, in addition to the conscious control of the girl. Typical positive manipulation!
J. Rudinov gives an example of the following manipulation: “Brown’s son was humming some annoying melody. The father knows that the son always strives to do everything contrary to him, rejecting any attempts at joint activity. Therefore, in response, he cheerfully picked up the melody with the hope that he would stop his annoying singing. Manipulation is evident, deception is not visible, the son is not at a loss.
As a typical manipulation, E. Dotsenko refers to «The Tale of Tsar Saltan» by A.S. Pushkin: this is a story about how Prince Gvidon, by psychological influences, secretly ensured that the tsar-father left his business and visited his city on the island of Buyan. Prince Gvidon, however, is not a deceiver, and the tsar-father was happy.
Manipulation is only a tool, and how and for what purpose people use it is determined by the people themselves. Decent and caring people practice only positive manipulations. For what purposes? Most often it is:
- A protective measure, a worthy response to unacceptable manipulation from the outside;
- Harmless tricks and tricks traditionally accepted in some communities and relationships (for example, the standard of advertising activities, the standard of the educational process, the interpersonal games of women and men, children and parents, trade, especially in terms of the ability to bargain);
- A means of entertainment in the relationship of self-confident people;
- A means of increasing the efficiency of managing your employees in a serious business, when the end result is much more important than temporary personal stress;
- A means of effective communication between businessmen acting as seller and buyer;
- Cases of increased social significance (educational work with difficult teenagers, promotion of especially significant social projects, work of special services).
Positive manipulation in a man-woman relationship
Mature people usually have a very positive attitude towards positive manipulations in relations between a man and a woman. See Reviews If everything is done openly, by negotiating, then you need to work — this is to be done. We agreed that the husband needs to go to the market — then he needs to remember this and do it. Strain. And if a smart wife influences her beloved husband (for his own sake) is hidden, then everything that he needs happens to him, but he does not need to do anything for this. More convenient! Therefore, wise men are happy to send their wife, for example, to Ericksonian hypnosis training. Let him learn to influence his own husband even more effectively and covertly!
Other illustrations of positive manipulation
One of the moments of the work of a sports coach is to set up your ward for training, to play on his feelings in order to force him to train as a result. Victory is the interest and desire of the athlete himself, but it can be difficult and lazy to train. The work of a coach is to create a desire to train with his ward.
Your friend has a fear of public speaking. The actual desire is to hide and wind up. You: “Nobody knows this topic like you do! Even if you only tell half of what you can tell them, they will be delighted!” Your friend now has a new intention that you created — to go and perform anyway.
The child is interested in toys, not school. Considering that he loves show-offs, he is told that at school he will be just like an adult and he will be given five in his diary. Then they go to a big store and, consulting with him, buy him a beautiful expensive briefcase with shiny buckles. Now the child is already interested in going to school.