The advent of the web gives pride of place to pornography: porn movies are now accessible with one click and virtual sex appears as an easy and quick way to satisfy one’s desire. If watching a pornographic film together can stimulate desire, the couple’s sexuality can, on the contrary, suffer. Porn, yes, but in moderation.

Before even consuming pornography, it is important for partners to be aware of this truth: porn movies do not accurately reflect the reality of a couple’s sexuality.

The woman is completely shaved.

A generous chest, muscular buttocks, an oversized penis, full hair removal or a flat and muscular stomach: the advantageous physique of actresses and actors of X movies leaves no room for flaws, no chance of seeing cellulite or fat. This erroneous vision is harmful for the partners, who can feel complex about it. In addition, not all lovers have the same preferences in terms of physique. In this context, pornography can create unnecessary pressure.

The 2 lovers systematically reach orgasm.

Another means of pressure, in terms of sexual performance this time: the 2 partners, in a porn film, necessarily reach orgasm. In reality, other forms of pleasure can satisfy lovers, and it is not uncommon for a woman not to have an orgasm – which is not a sign of failed intercourse.

No room for foreplay and romance.

In pornography, the actors are directly in the heat of the moment: penetration occurs very quickly. While this way of practicing may be suitable for certain individuals, or at certain times, sex can also be the occasion of a romantic romantic relationship, which requires a sufficient dose of foreplay. These foreplay are often also the sine qua non of excitement, so should not be neglected.

The man forces the woman to satisfy his fantasies.

The couple’s sexuality depends on the character of each partner: some men like to dominate while others prefer to leave the reins to their lover. In terms of virtual sex, the woman often appears to be dominated, reduced to satisfying the fantasies of the other and to satisfying him sexually. This vision carries a very negative connotation, which should not reflect reality.

The erotic film, a more realistic alternative.

If the pornographic film is often poles apart from everyday life, erotic films for their part are softer and more realistic. In this context, they represent a better entry into the matter. 

When viewed with full knowledge of the facts, porn films have the merit of providing many benefits for the couple’s sexuality:

• The pornographic film helps to stimulate sexual arousal.
• Pornography can be a good source of inspiration for couples lacking inspiration and wanting to vary their pleasures.
• Virtual sex is a good way to get aroused solo when the partner is not inclined to have sex. 

Be careful, virtual sex, because it seems so easy and so enjoyable, but also because it allows you to enjoy in all circumstances, with or without your partner, can become an addiction. Pornography can thus endanger the couple’s sexuality when a partner privileges it to the detriment of real relationships.

To get aroused in the event of a breakdown in desire or to find new ways to explore one’s sexuality as a couple, pornography can be beneficial. But to be used with moderation, so as not to risk being conditioned by false ideas, factors of unnecessary pressure and devastating for the sexuality in the couple.