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Poles have statistically sex for eleven minutes, like in a book by Paulo Coelho, with the lights off and thinking about someone else. What kind of lovers are we?
- Sex for Poles is not so important. Only 15 percent consider it extremely important. men and 8 percent. women.
- We are more and more convinced of oral and anal sex, we use gadgets, we watch pornographic films
- We are constantly looking for permanent partners. Compared to other nations, Poles are eager to get married
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Our sexuality is a very important and delicate matter. As Professor Zbigniew Izdebski writes in his book “Sexuality of Poles at the beginning of the XNUMXst century”, such a large discrepancy between people’s declarations and their actual actions is rare.
Love statistics – how often and with whom do we have sex?
We statistically have sex once a week in the dark for eleven minutes while we think about someone else. According to the research conducted by Professor Zbigniew Izdebski and Polpharma in 2017, sex for Poles is not as important as it might seem. Only 15 percent consider it extremely important. men and 8 percent. women. Moreover, interest in sex declines with age.
Sex, i.e. the act understood as the introduction of a member into the vagina, is initiated for the first time at the age of eighteen (men) and less than twenty (women). Statistics say that we usually do it after a few or a dozen meetings with a future sexual partner.
What else can we read from the available data? 54 percent Poles experienced true love, usually with their current partner / partner. Most of us also formalize the relationship through marriage. And although the premarital chastity, according to Professor Zbigniew Izdebski, has retained five percent. people from our parents’ generation and one percent. people in our children’s generation, the church continues to encourage us to keep our prenuptial cleanliness. Meanwhile…
- The best sex begins with the words: “Yes, I want it, don’t stop!”
Do you want to raise the temperature in the bedroom? Try a warming cinnamon lubricant to stimulate your senses.
Eleventh: Don’t Masturbate!
Sex education in the Polish church does not look good. As Professor Zbigniew Izdebski says, priests in seminaries are usually not taught sexology, so they talk to the faithful about sex without having substantive preparation for it. Some clergymen make it this way: you are a believer, you must be strong, otherwise you are risking sin. And no masturbation! – explains professor Izdebski.
Meanwhile, the Church itself, and man himself. Most of us admit to in our polls masturbationmen masturbate more often – 47% There are much fewer women using this form of release of tension – only 23 percent. – Single women go to my store most often – says Bożena, owner of a sexshop in Warsaw. – Vibrators are very popular, or, as I used to say, masturbators. We have them from choice to color – white, black and pink with brilliants. Each of the ladies will find something for themselves. I refer the more timid ones to internet searches, although in direct contact I am willing to advise an erotic gadget well, so that the client or the client (or the couple) are satisfied – he explains. Onanism – usually – is abandoned when we manage to establish a lasting sexual relationship in which we can fully realize ourselves.
Wisłocka in a cassock
It must be admitted that there are priests subversive. A respected Catholic sex educator is, for example, Father Knotz (called the Catholic Michalina Wisłocka), who writes that a Catholic may kiss his wife below the navel. Currently, Father Mark Gungor is also in fashion, although his publications are not for every budget. However, if we care about the reliable education of our children, we can purchase conferences on sexuality on DVD with his participation and include it as part of parental awareness. Are a few outspoken catechist reformers enough to educate our society?
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Who is to educate young (and older!) Poles on sexual issues? The compatriots’ approach to sex is changing. In schools, there is an optional WDŻ (Education for Family Life), where a young person can learn something about sex life, learn about the principles of conscious and responsible parenthood, family values, development of life in the prenatal phase, as well as methods and means of conscious procreation. Most Poles agree to the participation of children in such activities.
What about adults? After all, we would often need some delicious recipe for enriching the Polish art of love. The more that the statistics show that we are not so parochial at all. Oral sex (63 percent) and … anal sex (20 percent) are becoming more and more popular among Poles. The latter has its opponents, not only is it considered perversion, but it is also very risky. According to the proctologist Dr. Marcin Tchórzewski, you can get infected with all sexually transmitted diseases in this way. These are: syphilis, chlamydia, gonorrhea, genital warts, HIV. Professor Zbigniew Izdebski allows this kind of closeness, but under certain conditions: in the XNUMXst century, anal sex should be practiced in a condom.
For safe and satisfactory anal sex, you also need a moisturizing gel to protect against abrasions and discomfort. You can reach for products such as the antibacterial anal lubricant Soothe Intimate Earth or the anal lubricant with hyaluronic acid Back Door Pjur.
The question of education, however, remains open. Every Pole must do it on his own. Let us remember that a well-educated adult is a well-educated child, because the first phase of sexual education should take place in the family. We don’t have to talk about troublesome matters face to face. All we have to do is give our partner or child an interesting reading adapted to the sense of aesthetics and age.
What turns us on, what excites us?
Professionals help in sex education. In the book “Success in XXL”, psychologist Katarzyna Miller recalls: “I am reminded of a story I read, in which the protagonist of the story lived in an apartment where airplanes were flying very low above the house. And he had a maid who worked for his father. She was a big, shaggy woman. And he was watching her because he wanted, as an adolescent boy, to see what a woman looks like from below, from above, everywhere. Then, in his adult life, he met a big and shaggy woman. And a plane was just passing by. And he pounced on this woman as if he had been driven by something so irrevocably great that he experienced neither such desire nor such fulfillment in front of anyone else. It’s just that different things work on our brain. What we experienced in childhood affects us. Our dreams and unconscious desires work on us. And we will never know what really rules us, we can only guess slowly »- he hits the point, and it’s the G point, psychologist. Or maybe let’s try to delve into the recesses of our consciousness?
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Porn for ladies
Until recently, pornography was considered a male domain. Women avoided her for moral reasons, because they are less visual or do not like comparisons with attractive models. Meanwhile, with the increase of women’s independence, the demand for eroticism for women grew. Soft porn has appeared – mild, depicting sensual play. Such pornography does not dazzle with pictures of organs, but tells stories that are supposed to stimulate the senses. For example, a story about an old man and a very young woman. He – wealthy, educated, in a position. She – poor, simple and very beautiful. Close-up, the nude shows a man in love, completely surrendered and a bored, capricious young woman. Youth and beauty can do anything. Yes, yes, it works.
Fantasies on Paper
Much has changed since the mini-sexual revolution which was triggered in Poland by Michalina Wisłocka’s “The Art of Loving”. There have been a lot of publications about sex. Instructional ones, such as the books by professor Zbigniew Lew-Starowicz or the hit “The Art of Penis Handling” by Andrzej Gryżewski and Przemysław Pilarski, but also… acting on the senses. Such an item is the undoubtedly popular “Vagina Monologues” by Eve Ensler, which help to accept corporeality and femininity. If any lady likes to get excited by literature, let her reach for the collection of erotic stories by Katarzyna Miller “Salty Cookies”. There are ten stories that stimulate the imagination. And there is nothing to be ashamed of – remember that nothing human is alien to us.
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