They idealize us – so that we feel in seventh heaven with happiness. Then imperceptibly they begin to depreciate – and now we already doubt ourselves, and then they reject, shifting all the responsibility for what happened on our shoulders. They are narcissists, and relationships with them inevitably go through the same cycle. You can recognize them by certain phrases, we have collected them for you.
Before you start reading this list, we want to warn you: of course, not one, not even ten of the almost hundred phrases listed below, does not mean that your partner is a narcissist. And yet, it is worth paying attention to how often he uses these turns in speech and whether a certain trend can be traced behind this.
Most of the phrases listed below come from the lips of men in real life, but it is important to understand that a woman can also be a narcissist.
Idealization
1. “You are the best thing that happened to me in my life!”
2. “I love you with all my heart”
3. “You are my soulmate”
4. “You are perfect!”
5. “I’ve never loved anyone like you!”
6. “I would marry you without a second thought”
7. “I’ve never felt anything like it”
8. “I will love you forever!”
9. “I love absolutely everything about you”
10. “There is only you and me – against the whole world!”
11. “How lucky I am to meet you!”
12. “I love you more than myself”
13. “I’m ready to give my life for you”
14. “If it weren’t for the children, you and I would have run away from everyone”
15. “Since I met you, the best time of my life has begun.”
16. “We are kindred spirits”
17. “With you, I became whole, became myself!”
18. “No one will ever love you like I do”
Depreciation
19. “You should have known that”
20. “Shouldn’t you…”
21. “You can’t just…”
22. “Wouldn’t it be better if you…”
23. “Maybe the problem is you?”
24. “You’re just being lazy”
25. “Congratulations! And now what do you want? Medal?”
26. “Have you thought about losing some weight?”
27. “You succeeded simply because you…”
28. “You’re like a child”
29. “You only think about yourself”
30. “Hey, nobody’s perfect”
31. “When you have already stopped…”
32. “Don’t take it personally, but actually…”
33. “She’s Just Better Than You”
34. “It’s not my fault that all my exes are prettier than you.”
35. “You should have done…”
36. “Stop taking any feedback as criticism.”
37. “What a ‘wonderful’ idea! Thank you, I’ll manage somehow”
38. “Do you think you’re special?”
39. “Did you do it behind my back?”
40. “I knew that you would think so”
41. “There are too many of you”
42. “It’s Your Duty”
43. “And my exes always did it.”
44. “You wore this dress so that everyone could see your underwear!”
45. “You Just Didn’t Listen”
46. ”I don’t understand why you can’t just do as I said”
47. “You’re just crazy”
48. “I would never do that and I need you to understand that”
49. “You couldn’t have done it without me”
50. “You overreact”
51. “You’re generally lucky that I’m with you”
52. “You always make things difficult!”
53. “You’re too sensitive”
54. “You’re just guessing, I didn’t mean anything like that”
55. “Relax, it was just a joke”
56. “I didn’t beat you, I just hurt you”
57. “You yourself piss me off”
58. “Already someone who, and you definitely shouldn’t expect a different attitude from people”
59. “I didn’t flirt, you’re paranoid out of the blue”
60. “You put too much pressure on me with your questions and force me to lie”
61. “You remember everything wrong”
62. “Do you even know who you’re talking to?”
63. “You should finally understand what my priorities are”
64. “Why don’t you believe me?”
65. “You let me down”
66. “I just wanted to teach you a lesson”
67. “Just stay out of it”
68. “If only you would listen!”
69. “It’s you who makes me like this”
70. “Yes, no one else will agree to live with you!”
71. “Stop, there’s nothing to cry about”
72. “You did it all yourself”
73. “If you leave, I’ll kill myself!”
74. “Why don’t you trust me?”
75. “If you ask me about it again, I’ll leave”
76. “I’m sorry it hurt you. I didn’t want it”
Disclaimer
77. “Yes, your head is not in order!”
78. “I hate those who lie. Here I speak only the truth – always “
79. “I can’t help myself”
80. “Look at you – you need help!”
81. “I didn’t do anything like that”
82. “It’s not my problem that you can’t deal with your emotions.”
83. “You don’t love me and never loved me”
84. “It’s all in your head”
85. “Your nerves are naughty, pull yourself together”
86. “I have always been honest with you”
87. “You deserve happiness, so I’m leaving”
88. “I wasn’t like this before I met you”
89. “My feelings towards you have not changed, but I can no longer deal with you and your problems.”
90. “I knew that you wouldn’t leave on your own, so I had to”
91. “I have always been faithful to you”
92. “Yes, I lost my feelings as quickly as I caught fire with them, but that’s okay.”
93. “No one will need you”
94. “You yourself pushed me away”
95. “No one will believe you”
96. “No one cares”
97. “It’s Not My Fault”