Family territory is not only property, time, friends and other values that are in personal or common possession, it is also topics (questions): personal or general topics. The general theme concerns both, the personal theme concerns only one.
For example, the husband’s work issues are his personal topic. Mother-in-law’s health is a personal topic for the wife.
Permission and even more so an invitation to discuss a personal topic is a gift, and we welcome it. However, if someone does not want to discuss something that is his personal topic, he has every right to do so and is not obliged to explain the reasons. See Private
Difficult questions
In some cases, it is difficult to determine whether the topic is general or purely personal.
- What time should a wife or husband go to bed?
- How to dress for a picnic, if the wife wants to dress beautifully and thinks that this is only her question, and the husband thinks that the question is general: “You will catch a cold!”
The main criterion in this case is:
- To what extent is the party, which considers the issue its own, is really ready to take the issue under its own responsibility: to take all possible negative consequences on itself, to really ensure that they do not exist, or that these consequences are eliminated promptly and exclusively at its expense?