At the Distance, the exercise “People can help” is formulated as follows:
In this exercise, you need to learn to take help lightly: it is easy to accept help when it is offered, it is easy to ask for help yourself when it can be received or organized. Specifically, you need to make sure that when asking for help there is no unhappy face and intonations of suffering, so that this is done easily, joyfully, the usual request with a smile and gratitude in advance. Another acceptable option is a business option, namely the following points: 1) The wording “I need your (your) help”, 2) A short description of the difficulty (problem), 3) A description of your vision for solving the problem, and preferably three solutions, 4) What exactly would you like to receive as help and 5) What do I plan to undertake to solve the problem.
Application for help is a natural part of their relations in civilized social and interpersonal relationships.
When a civilized person asks for help, he wants and is ready to pay for it. Anyone who is used to using the help of others without thinking about the need for payment (helping them, caring for them) is a parasite.
Help with a cigarette? — this is not an appeal for help, but everyday parasitism.
The ability and readiness for self-service should not turn into isolation, refusal of reasonable assistance. You can ask for help, and many will be pleased to help you. People can help!
If you have a desire, an initiative is born, but your relative does not like your initiative, is not interested, he does not share your enthusiasm — no offense, be ready to do everything yourself. No one owes nothing to nobody. But always ask — what if you like it? Make it more fun together.
If you’re in trouble, I can’t and shouldn’t feel guilty. The territory is yours — I’m not to blame for your problems. But to offer sometime help is natural for those who love and loved ones.
In response to a request for help (if it is obvious that a really normal person needs help), many people are ready to help. From the article «Don’t Wait for Batman»:
It is possible and necessary to ask for help, it is only important that your appeal be constructive and contain your own contribution, namely, you turn on your own head and ask in such a way that it is convenient and easy for you to help. If you have a problem and you ask for help (to your manager, friends or colleagues), then use the following algorithm that is convenient for both parties: What is the problem — Solutions — What do you need from the person you are contacting — What are you ready to take on yourself .