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Sometimes a temporary separation can end a relationship. This happens if the partners have long decided everything, but do not dare to admit it to each other. But sometimes with the help of a pause, you can take communication to a new level. And although such a decision is often made by one partner, and the second is only forced to agree, psychologists believe that there are advantages for both in it.
Some of us are like fire afraid to hear from a partner: “Let’s take a break.” Nevertheless, sometimes such a decision can be a good way out of a crisis in a relationship. In what cases will a temporary separation be beneficial and how should each party behave? And what lesson can each of these situations teach us?
Everything moves too fast
You leave: you like a person, but you were not ready for the relationship to develop so rapidly. At first it seemed that everything was happening naturally, but now you feel that the intimacy that has arisen implies obligations that you cannot take on. An attempt to distance yourself for a while will show how important and dear your partner is to you.
Leaving you: if the rapid development of relationships is natural for you, but uncomfortable for another, you should ask yourself: do you and your partner emotionally match? If he has doubts at the very beginning, perhaps this person is still not right for you.
It’s time to deal with important and secondary
You leave: your life is full of obligations, and at the end of the day you are so “de-energized” that there is no longer enough emotional strength for a loved one? If you feel like the relationship is just another black hole that is draining your energy and you’re not getting anything in return, try giving it up. Time will tell if your life will become more harmonious and happy.
Leaving you: even if you seek to provide emotional support to a person, he should be interested in accepting it. Since this is not happening yet, are you ready to wait? Do you feel completely comfortable in this relationship? And if not, what needs to change? For you, a pause in communication is a time for reflection and a final decision.
What if I meet someone who is more suitable?
You leave: it happens that you like a person, but at the same time the thought does not leave you that you can meet someone else, destined, as they say, by fate. Perhaps it is the pause that will show the senselessness of waiting for someone fictional, whose image exists only in your imagination, and you want to return to a relationship with a real person.
Leaving you: of course, your partner does not admit the true reason for his decision, but you feel that he is not completely sincere with you and seems to be keeping you “on the bench.” As hurtful as this situation is, it may show that it makes sense to get out of the relationship yourself and not let the other side play with your feelings.
Want to avoid unpleasant emotions
You leave: you have already decided to leave, but it seems to you that it is better to soften the blow and tell your partner that you need to understand yourself – so you will delay the time, and he will gradually get used to separation.
However, the truth is that in trying to avoid guilt, you are sparing yourself first. You do not make the breakup easier – on the contrary, due to insincerity, you cause additional trauma to your partner. However, you can still face uncomfortable emotions and learn how to discuss difficult topics with someone who was close to you.
Leaving you: if you are honest with yourself, then, of course, you feel what exactly your partner wants. It is difficult for him to clearly explain to you the true reason: he clearly does not find the courage to tell the truth. This is a good time to ask yourself – do you need a relationship with someone you can’t rely on?