Passion for football

Don’t worry, I won’t analyze dribbling technique or criticize coaching. My task is different: to figure out what is causing the confrontation between men and women. After all, it is obvious that football separates us. Of course, some men are indifferent to him. Indeed, there are women who show some interest in him, especially at moments of intense collective emotions. But as someone who professionally observes the life of couples, I just have to add that all this is nothing compared to the sea of ​​uXNUMXbuXNUMXbwomen’s wailing that echoes through me every time football takes over the air. Endless complaints and mutual misunderstanding. And really, how to understand this sudden change in a partner? Usually laconic and restrained, he suddenly turns before our eyes into a creature vibrating from an excess of feelings, engulfed in an internal flame. So, he is capable of passion! Alas, only when it comes to football. Then the intensity of emotions subsides, but this does not make it easier: he sits down in an armchair with a mug of beer in his hand, alone or in the company of friends, the same fans; his eyes and thoughts are riveted to the TV screen. This scene of a family nightmare (for women) today takes on almost mythical features. But I’m not going to defend men. I’d just like to kind of explain what’s behind this scene.

Modern man needs passion. More and more. By becoming the sole driving force behind his own existence, he runs the risk of losing contact with his personal history, with the very story that he tells himself … and that gives his life meaning. For a while, of course, he can surrender to the daily routine. But he needs to compensate for these inexpressive moments with a strong sense of belonging to something clear and dynamic. And let it be, if possible, a real impulse of passion, multiplying the psychological benefits of such belonging. And now small passions permeate our existence, and we are not even aware of the scale of this phenomenon. Loving your dog, singing songs with abandon, collecting cookie tins—we can’t imagine the existential tensions that underlie such pursuits. It is especially difficult for us to do this because the addictions of some do not find a response in others, and the intensity of feelings is understandable only from the inside (outside, passion may seem ridiculous or incomprehensible). The gulf separating men and women is especially noticeable. To be convinced of this, it is enough to stop at a newsstand and see who is reading what. To each his own. Respect for the other’s passions (or even an interested curiosity about their oddities) may be a key component of the new art of married life. But the one who surrendered to passion must know that there is a limit to everything (football every evening is impossible), and observe one condition: to put no less fiery feelings into the relationship of two …