When both partners are in a passive position, social realization is not so important for them — it is We that is important. That is why this marriage is stable, since the situation of external pressure on this marriage is almost impossible. Typical examples: creative workers, summer residents, «old-world landowners.» They do not impose requirements on the presence and quality of the social environment, they reduce social contacts to a minimum. The main goal is for everyone to forget about them, everyone to get rid of them. Great resource for transformation. However, in this obsession with each other lies a difficulty: first, when both are passive, it is difficult for them to find each other. When they found it, it is difficult to help them, if something went wrong, conflicts arose. They strive to keep everything “as it was”, there is a danger of stagnation, resistance to changes, including natural changes associated with the life cycle in a couple. And in this pair, due to the extreme isolation on each other, it is difficult for children to come, they are superfluous there. Paired narcissism, pathological symbiosis.
2022-05-30