😉 Hello! Are your parents against a boyfriend? This is not an easy question, but there is always a way out. Let’s try to figure it out and find the right solution.
You had to spend a lot of time in the network, libraries and parks of the city to find your love. Your chosen one with honey eyes and a daring “hedgehog” on his head smiles and warms your palms. “This is probably for life …” This is what rushes through your head. But your loved ones are against …
When parents are against
Romeo and Juliet also suffered from parental misunderstanding, but we live in the modern world and are not going to drink poison. An interesting and long life is ahead!
Father and mother say that this person is not for you and insist that you part. All your arguments are swept aside! Now you are no longer so inspired by your love, because the wings are chained in a chain called “parental opinion”.
Let’s figure out why they are so configured, there are a lot of reasons (in each individual case – their own):
- you are very young and it is still too early to meet with gentlemen;
- relatives have already thought about what your fiance will be like, this choice is not at all suitable;
- he is an orphan and you will live in the same apartment. But it’s not a problem;
- mother and father did not communicate with your boyfriend, but painted their own image;
- jealousy of another person you love very much. It is difficult for them to understand that apart from mom and dad you will love someone else.
Compromise solution
Do not think badly about your mom and dad, and that they do not understand you at all. They are the only people on Earth who sincerely wish you happiness and protect you from any mistakes in life. They have more experience.
It is imperative to introduce the “ancestors” to your boy. If your friend willingly agrees to meet with them, this is a big plus for him. And if it starts to “twist” and postpone this visit, then part with it and do not regret it. This is a coward or his attitude towards you is not serious.
And if after the acquaintance of the family with your chosen one, nothing has changed? Most parents don’t like a boyfriend or girlfriend the first time. Try to talk and find out what they didn’t like about your friend. And think about how to fix it – if possible.
Do not try to blackmail your father and mother with your death or possible pregnancy. This will not add parental love to your chosen one. They will hate him because he is the cause of all the quarrels in the family.
By the way, pregnancy cannot solve any problem – be it a misunderstanding, keeping a family, or getting married late. It will only get worse. The misunderstanding will worsen, and the hassle will increase tenfold.
There is hope that the situation can be remedied. But if all else fails, you should not run away from home to the ends of the earth. Give your own time, let them get used to the fact that you will still have a fiancé. Perhaps over the course of your relationship, they will realize they were wrong.
Family psychologist advice
- If you are under 16-18 years old, you must strictly follow the advice of your parents. There are no options here!
- Never complain about a guy to your father or mother. After a quarrel, you will make up, and they will not forget that someone hurt their child. The offspring protection instinct also works at the level of relationships.
- Do not lie to yourself. Understand your feelings towards your chosen one. It is possible that this is falling in love, not love.
- Don’t dump the guy if you really love him. And relatives can just make a mistake.
- If you are sure that he is destiny, then you need to fight for him.
Dear girls, how I want you to make fewer mistakes. The older I get, the more I remember my youth. My God, how many mistakes I had in life when my brains did not control my feelings! Eh, if life experience and mind were in my younger years …
By the way, there is another idea! For those who are confused. Go to a good psychologist or ask your father in church for advice. They will help there.
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