- Cooperate with us. Don’t try to be more childish than you really are, «acting» helplessness and stupidity. Let us know that we can grow together, that we can count on you to eventually become independent of us.
- Remember that serious study means serious business. You may need to assert your independence with the word “no,” but we have our limitations.
- We were not parents in the beginning, we became parents the moment you were born. Therefore, our parenting experience is equal to your age. As parents, we are the same age as you and need help and support no less than you. It depends on us what you will become, but it also depends on you what kind of parents we will be. We need you to develop responsibility — the ability to respond!
- We try to keep our requirements to a minimum and use less “you must”. But remember that your job is to fully develop the “I want” to replace them.
- The only definite thing that can be said about adults, as human beings in general, is that we are capable of mistakes and often fail. Accept our ability to make mistakes and sometimes be not up to par.
- We would like you to tell us that you appreciate us too when we give you attention. “Thank you” is such an incentive!
- Accept our rules sometimes, even if you don’t understand them. As adults, we really do sometimes know better!
- Do not always wait for a response from us. Try to analyze and understand the question yourself. Understanding the question is more important than knowing the answer.
- Remember that we are pleased with your interest in our activities. Adults are not always conservative and you can learn to love some of what we do.
- Love us when we are wrong and you are sure of it. Being a parent is not the same as being God. Even if you claim omnipotence, we are really only human.
- Do not mechanically take an example from us. Don’t copy us, be creative.
- Remember to also treat us as equals. Parents are not slaves of their children; we also need justice.
- We also need rest. Respect our friends as we respect yours. Our actions may be meaningless to you, but we have every right to them.
- Our home belongs to all of us. Things are not as important as people, but try to learn to respect the things that people value highly.
- We would like to see you as junior partners of our family firm. But don’t act like we’re already retired. We still have an active role in the company!
- Make your own decisions wisely and we will love you despite the fact that we know they are not always wise!
- Parents grow in the same way as children — in stages. We will be stronger in a few years. Let’s row together instead of rowing apart.
PS We love you!