Parents and children

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A child does not grow into a person by himself, it is the parents who make the child a person. A child is born without the experience of current life, he is almost a pure carrier of information, who is just beginning to write down and explain to himself everything that happens around him. And it is the parents who are the first people who are fixed by a small person, and for most people it is their parents who become and remain the most important people for the child for life.

Parents provide the conditions for survival and comfort for the child. Parents introduce the child into the world, explaining to him almost all the rules of this world. Parents teach the child models of behavior and relationships with the world, with people.

More specifically, research shows that babies see their dad primarily as a toy. For both boy and girl, dad is the best toy: an interactive toy from which you can learn everything. Babies perceive mom differently: as a subject from whom you can get food, warmth and protection.

Parents charge the child with energy. Parents support and approve the child. Parents form the child’s self-esteem. Parents set the child life guidelines and first goals. Parents become for him a reference group by which he compares his life, and when we grow up, we are still based (or repelled) from the parental experience we have learned. We choose a husband or wife, we raise children, we build our family on the basis of the experience gained with our parents.

Parents forever remain in the mind of a child, and then an adult, in the form of pictures and in the form of behavior patterns. In the form of an attitude, both to oneself and to others, in the form of resentments learned from childhood, fears and habitual helplessness or habitual self-confidence, joy of life and strong-willed behavior. As a purposeful activity, education is secondary. There are few conscious educators among parents, only a few consciously educate children. However, children are brought up by us even when we do not plan it: by the very fact that we live together with them, by our way and way of life, by our habits and conversations. Purposeful upbringing is rare and therefore secondary, in life it is primary — these are parents and children, what kind of children they are, what kind of parents, and what kind of relationship between them. The goals of education, its possibilities, and the approaches and methods used in this will already depend on this.

However, the recognition of the great importance of childhood for the formation of personality is one thing, the relationship «parents — children» is another, a specific developmental situation is a third. In one family, mother beat little Stalin, so he grew up cruel. In another family, dad beat little Stalin, so he grew up quiet and weak-willed. In the third family, dad taught little Stalin to help mom and beat him when he offended the weak, so he grew up as a teacher. And in the fourth family, mother beat little Stalin, and he swore to himself that he would never beat his children … Read more in the article “The Main Secret of All Children”.

child’s life

Perhaps you want to raise a child, and the child just lives at this time. How does a child live at different ages, what interests him, what does he occupy himself with? See →

The attitude of parents to the child

Why do we want children, why do we give birth to them? The question is not simple for everyone, see Why do people have children.doc

Not all parents, influencing children, bring them up. Often they get rid of children, take revenge on children, discharge on children …

A large number of parents gave birth, because «it happened», and now they are raising him because «where are you going, it still yells» and so that I have less trouble, I will have to educate him. Most parents raise their children to be less annoying in life. They do not love children, they want less trouble for themselves, they take care of themselves and this is not education, this is protection from children. See Parent-Child Relationship.

Attitude of children to parents

The attitude of children to parents, as a rule, is created by the parents themselves, although not always consciously. The most important factor here is the family in which the child lives and is brought up. Parents are always significant people for children, but children’s love for parents is not born and is not guaranteed. The duty of children to their parents. Does he exist? What is it? How to maintain a warm and sincere relationship between parents and children? See →

Parents and adult children

Children grow up and become adults, but the relationship between parents and children does not always grow and mature. How to set up these relationships? See →

Parenting Opportunities

If you want to be a good parent, if you love your child and learn to be a good parent and caregiver, will you definitely succeed? Nothing is promised to you. You can be super educators, but you can have a sour or difficult child who is really hard to deal with. You will do the best you can, you can reduce people’s troubles from this child, but will you have time to make a worthy person out of this child in two decades of his upbringing? — It won’t always happen. See Parenting Opportunities

Centers dealing with the education of children

In Moscow:

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Sinton coordinates in Moscow — m. «Elektrozavodskaya». Contact phones: +7 (499) 705-5695, +7 (925) 602-4430, e-mail: [email protected]

«Center for the support of the growing generation». The head of the Center is Kirill Khlomov. Address: 119146, Russian Federation, Moscow, Frunzenskaya emb., 36/2 Phone: (495) 609-17-72 Website http://www.perekrestok.info/ E-mail: [email protected]