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Parenting Secrets: What Children Are Afraid Of
If you just can’t understand why after the holidays the child completely got out of hand: screaming, crying and being capricious, you should know that you are the adults who are to blame! After all, most likely you have arranged a terrible test for your children.
Yes Yes. Stop being surprised and deny. For most kids and even adolescents, such a long-awaited New Year’s holidays often turn into the most severe stress and a monstrous test. Want to argue?
Let’s start with the simplest. From Santa Claus. It’s good if the child is 10-12 years old, and he already understands who this bearded guy in a red fur coat is and why he comes. And if the baby is 3-5 years old, and for the first time he meets the “good Grandfather” closely? At the same time, the parents are still pushing the child closer to the fairy-tale character, sitting on their knees, wanting to take a picture together. My child was prepared to meet Santa Claus, however, when Grandfather banged on the door with all his might, my daughter was hysterical. She was scared (yes, to be honest, so are we).
Or another case. As a volunteer in one of the orphanages, I saw with my own eyes how half of the kids were horrified by how the disguised actor, apparently trying to get used to the image of the Deer, ran around the hall and shouted. The guy so diligently portrayed a cloven-hoofed animal that strayed from the herd that even me – an adult aunt – felt uneasy …
In fact: the child is crying and screaming, we are nervous and do not understand the reasons, as a result, we pull the child even more, we break down. The circle is closed.
The baby’s tears should immediately show the mother that the baby is anxious, afraid or tired.
All year, you convinced the child that you need to wash and brush your teeth before going to bed no later than nine in the evening, and peacefully sleep in the crib – already at 22.00. And now the New Year holidays come, and everything collapses. You try to “hold” your baby until midnight in order to celebrate the New Year with him, unexpectedly go for a walk at 11 pm, and then sleep off until lunchtime. What is the child doing? He is incredibly happy that his parents are near, parents are at home, and he can be on an equal footing with them, as an adult: do not go to bed, do not follow the rules and do not get up in the morning. What we get in reality: the usual routine is knocked down, the baby, by habit, wants to go to bed at 10 in the evening, but … he already got excited, got mad and is not going to stop, and therefore he jumps, jumps, jumps until he falls or starts crying in hysterics …
In fact: the child cannot control his emotions. He does not understand how to behave now, when to go to bed and when to get up. He wants to run and play, but he is objectively tired, and therefore begins to be capricious and cry. Adults get nervous in response to this. The circle is closed again.
Eat what you want … Did you eat anything again?
Oh, these New Year’s tables…. Oh, this variety, abundance and … a nightmare. Gastronomic delights quite often even in adults then stomach ache for another week, to say nothing of children. But, of course, there can be no question of any diet, because these are holidays! And on holidays the whole country eats up a year in advance. And children take from the table everything that they can get, or everything that compassionate grandmothers, kind aunts and drunken uncles convey to them. And here it is useless to explain that the fifth candy is already too much, and even the children of Africa do not eat bananas in such quantities.
In fact: the simplest is diathesis and allergies, the most unpleasant is food poisoning. And, mind you, the children are NOT to blame for this!
Adult fun often becomes a child’s nightmare.
If you are sure that the child of Santa Claus is not afraid, did not eat anything harmful during the holidays, but kept the usual schedule, remember how you yourself behaved these days. How much alcohol was drunk? How many obscene and obscene stories have been told? It is clear that you were not telling them to children, and you also drank not with your children, but after all with them! Next to them! At the same table! I will never forget how I woke up on Christmas night from the screams from the neighbor’s apartment. I listened and realized that at least three were screaming – two adults and a child. Moreover, the baby is practically hysterical. On the clock – about two in the morning. There are several options. Either the child had not slept until that time and was already so exhausted that he could only sob, or he was awakened by wild adults (the neighbors were obviously having a party and they were just going to see off the guests). But it was not this that struck me, but how the adults reacted to the situation. They yelled back at the kid. The apotheosis was the phrase: “Boo! Let me scare you! Maybe then you will shut up! “
Everything calmed down after 30 minutes, when the guests, apparently, left, and the parents reassured the child. However, it is unlikely that the kid’s morning was better. Most likely, the parents had a hangover, a headache, and again the mood deteriorated.
What in fact: New Year turned into a nightmare. A festive week, which will be remembered by children with endless shouts of parents, constantly changing faces of guests, bad drinking and partying. We can … We are able. Practicing? And who is to blame for the fact that the child categorically does not want to obey, is capricious and sobs? There is no one to blame but you. So maybe it’s time to think about and revise your daily routine for future holidays?