The participants of our trainings asked us to collect the main things that smart parents should remember and know. We smiled and wrote. If you are not only smart, but also have a sense of humor, you should like these rules.
First things first:
- Raising children is not difficult if you are smart and have three or more children. It is always more difficult to raise two or one child. Make the right decisions!
- Children should be taken care of by children themselves. The system is simple: any junior obeys any senior. Each senior is fully and always responsible for any junior. Everything!
- Our children do not need childhood, we teach them to grow up.
- All the best for adults. Only in this case, children have an interest in growing up!
- The main task of parents is to be as demanding as possible for children. Ask your children for everything they can do. Well, a little more. Believe in your children!
- Your children are yours when they obey you. If they listen not to you, but to their friends, look at the TV when you talk to them and think that they can live without you, but not without a tablet, these are not your children. Teach your kids to listen!
- Education is easy. Do not scold, do not criticize, do not blame: teach your child to do the right things, turn them into skills, and then into good habits!
- Treat the child like an adult, respect the child. What if he’s already smart?
- Teach your children and employees to work, let them work like bobbins. Well, lead by example! You are the Chief Bobik!!!
And now in detail:
- Positive in everything: in words, thoughts and intonations. Start the day on a positive note, end the day on a positive note. Family happiness starts with you!
- In a healthy body healthy mind. Sleep, douche, exercise, the right evening, cheerful morning. More physical activity!
- If you, mom or dad, have an unhappy face, you are wrong (not right). Everything is always good with us: we have good children, and we are good parents.
- “Our children are smart, strong and beautiful!” — our duty is to remind them, their task is to remember.
- No matter how wonderful our children are, we will always demand even more from them. To whom more is given, more is required.
- If we are unhappy with our children, we ourselves are to blame. But kids don’t have to say that.
- Do not punish the child for mistakes, do not praise him for good luck — these are not his merits. You are responsible for the development and success of your child, and the task of your child is to obey you. He listens to you — praise. If you don’t listen, you have the right to punish. In a good family, children are only praised and not punished!
- A parent should be in two states: either you are doing well, or you are giving orders.
- Proceed from the fact that the child is not evil and not harmful — he just does not know what to do. Do not be offended, do not suffer and do not get angry — teach and demand.
- Don’t be afraid to show strength when your child wants to test your strength. A child never gets angry at a wall when he runs into it and it hits him. Be a wall!
- We use negativity and categoricalness as a military arsenal: only in extreme cases, when peaceful means have been exhausted.
- If, in response to demands, the child pouts and withdraws from contact, add another requirement: do not pout and communicate normally. Do not give up!
- It is impossible to suffer without the permission of the parents. Or, with parental permission, do it with a cheerful face!
- Don’t do too much for your child that he can do for himself.
- Children should not help their parents — let the children do everything themselves.
- If you don’t know how to act, remember how you behave in business. Thinking about what decision to make in relation to the child, look at him as your future employee — the one who in the future will take the place of the head of the company!
- Apply the rules of business to parenting and family relationships, and apply the rules of parenting to the business of educating your employees.
- We are not harmful, we are caring!
Remember what else, write more. And you write too!
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