Sometimes we, parents, are suddenly seized by inexplicable anxiety, although nothing portends trouble. And almost always we are right: children have problems, they have done something and they need support. Life coach Line Goolsby talks about the origins of parental intuition and why it should be trusted.
The clock was 03:45. I didn’t want to sleep at all. I wandered aimlessly around the house and could not really explain why I was doing this. I did not want to sit down at the computer, watch TV in the living room, and even more so toss and turn in bed without sleep. I looked out into the corridor from which you can get into the rooms of the sons.
“We need to see how the children are there,” I thought, and immediately pulled myself up. “Maybe it’s not worth it?” They must be asleep—what else are they supposed to do at a time like this?”
But, as is usually the case with most parents, the impulse to check if everything is in order with them turned out to be stronger than logic. She opened the door to the room of one of the sons — he slept without hind legs.
For a few moments, I admired him. He is seven, but he still sleeps with soft toys and covers himself with his favorite baby blanket. I pushed a strand of hair out of my son’s face, kissed him on the cheek, and left the room. And then I noticed a faint streak of light under the closed door of the second son.
Without thinking twice, I opened the door. Imagine my surprise when I saw a child sitting on the bed and watching a video on the tablet. Shortly before this, I forbade him to use any gadgets for a month (although I was not sure that I could be firm for that long).
When it comes to children, logic does not work. All that remains for us is to tune in to the wave of intuition and trust it.
But it’s not even that he violated the ban. Another thing is surprising: I trusted my intuition, which stubbornly directed me to my son’s room, and did not listen to the no less insistent voice of reason.
I have heard fantastic stories from other parents. Their intuition told them that children were in trouble, even when they were far away — at school or abroad. And they began to act, saved children from impending danger or rescued them from trouble.
My intuition usually manifests itself as follows: there is a vague feeling that something bad has happened (usually this feeling is accompanied by a spasm in the stomach) or, on the contrary, something good (heart stops). Everyone has intuition, and there is definitely a special energy connection between parents and children. Therefore, it is important to treat these unexpected internal fluctuations carefully and consciously.
Often there is a struggle within us: we hear a quiet whisper of intuition, followed by a loud voice of logic, and it is to this that we listen most often. Logic and rationality are everything, aren’t they? But when it comes to children, logic does not work. All that remains for us is to tune in to the wave of intuition and trust it. The first feeling is the most correct.
So it’s time to stop looking for a logical explanation for everything and start trusting yourself more.
About the author: Line Goolsby is a life coach.