Correction
Egocentrism, justified by social significance, the psychotechnics of communication that is difficult for the interlocutor, the way of life from which people living nearby suffer, make the paranoid person even within the framework of the personality drawing a difficult person.
A normal personality pattern is a trait of a normal personality, often described in the language of psychopathology (schizoid, hysteroid …), but not reaching accentuation, and even more so psychopathy.
If you are paranoid, you can take this into account. First of all, it is necessary to mitigate those qualities, in the description of which we emphasized the minuses. If you don’t want it, whatever you want. But only when you get into such troubles, where you can get out only with the help of people, do not rely on the same people. If you manage to mislead the new ones, they will be with you for a while, but for a short time, and not for the whole time.
The main thing is to grasp the idea that people can be more valuable and more important than goals, principles and the future.
A paranoid person especially needs to be careful with sensitives and hypothyms. Don’t be like an elephant in a china shop. These will be easy to break. And the hysteroid will simply fall into hysterics. It will be difficult with the paranoid one, he will also ram at you, and you will not avoid a frontal impact. Epileptoid? Well, unless the epileptoid will support you if he really likes you with his doctrine. But he is also selfish. You can act on a schizoid so that he not only loses the ability to participate in brainstorming sessions, but also generally loses the gift of speech along with the creative gift.
Of course, getting rid of your shortcomings completely means ceasing to be a person (as A. Morois wisely said), but it is possible to significantly reduce the negative consequences of the manifestation of these qualities. Each person can at least slightly «push» himself where it is difficult for others, instead of «pushing up». In order for the inhibition of bad communication habits to occur naturally and quickly, at the subconscious level, psychological training is needed. Your success in this, though not directly proportional, will depend on your efforts.
Everything said in the last paragraphs refers to the “you are paranoid” situation. But if you are paranoid with you, then he should not be uncomfortable in your presence either.
When dealing with him, it is advisable to follow certain rules of the psychotechnics of communication: to be interested in his proposals, achievements, to refuse humorous remarks about him, from negative assessments of his personality and relics, accusations and categoricalness, from teachings and edifications, even from advice. I give only a few tips to the paranoid here, without getting personal, but this threatens me with dissatisfaction on their part. Paranoid within the framework of the personality pattern and even an accentuator, sometimes he nevertheless listens to recommendations, for example, on the style of management, if he wants to stay at the helm of power (and some waves have already begun to sweep over the board). Less active than an epileptoid, but nevertheless, having heard something useful in advanced training courses, on television, from colleagues, he can put into practice some other people’s innovations, other people’s schizoid ideas. But the fundamental properties of his personality are still difficult to alter.
It is difficult for a paranoid person to discover the expedient elements of the psychotechnics of communication. He does not notice his mistakes. And if they are pointed out to him, the paranoid psychoprotective dismisses it: you misunderstood it, and he did not do it badly. I noticed that the paranoid, even if they come to classes in the psychotechnics of communication, resist and eventually leave, and if they do stay, they hardly master new patterns of communicative behavior for them. Here «in a gram of production, in a year of work.» The results depend primarily on the efforts of psychologists in the process of training, but far from being proportional. The paranoid one is remade with greater pain for himself than the epileptoid. He at least believes in books, specialists, while this one considers all books worthless, and specialists corrupt or unskilled.
And yet, do not despair. If in a paranoid person at least something can be reworked, then this can later result in brilliant achievements. After all, without making typical mistakes for himself, the paranoid can move mountains. It just needs to go in the right direction, so that you help the “good” paranoid, and not the future Stalin-Hitler.