If I were asked to compile a list of things that have changed the world in the last hundred years, then I would mention computers, television and, say, a nuclear bomb. And right after them — mobile communications.
Reasonable question: for what, in fact, the reason? After all, the telephone was invented back in the XNUMXth century, and in our time they just began to carry it with them. It would seem that nothing revolutionary happened. Let’s say we stopped specifying the exact meeting place, only the time — not as before, «in GUM by the fountain», but simply «come to Red Square, we’ll be there.» What else?
To begin with, literature has changed: we have lost half of the classic plots, when lovers lose each other in the crowd, and friends cannot come to the rescue, because «they don’t know anything.» But this is nothing compared to the changes in our heads. People gradually lose the ability to wait and cope with their own anxiety. You can call at any time and find out where a loved one is. Simple questions: “How are you?”, “Where are you?”, “When will you be?”, and now our anxiety subsides — available, which means everything is in order.
It is worth allowing yourself (and loved ones) to be alone with yourself. otherwise we will cease to endure even the slightest uncertainty
However, the more we get used to such a sedative, the more acute the panic attacks, if the phone suddenly does not answer. We are so spoiled by the available connection that we can no longer bear the unknown. Recently, while going for a walk, I forgot my cell phone at home. When I returned, I found a dozen unanswered calls — from my husband and several friends. Maybe something terrible happened? Nothing like this. It’s just that when I didn’t pick up the phone for the third time, my husband became alarmed and began to call everyone in a row. Jealousy or distrust has nothing to do with it — he was led by sincere fear for a person who was «lost» on a white day.
After analyzing this story, I realized that lately this has been happening to me too often to be a mere accident. I do regularly “forget” to put my cell phone in my bag, because being without it is my only chance to truly be alone. On reflection, I realized that such “forgetfulness” is not the best method, and I try to keep my phone with me. But if I notice that my hand involuntarily reaches out to him without special need — just to once again make sure that everything is in order with my husband or son, then I try to restrain myself.
I feel that sometimes you need to allow loved ones — and yourself — to be, albeit for a short time, off the grid. At least in order to later rejoice at the opportunities that it gives us, and at the same time realize that it is our free choice to use them or not.