Outburst of emotion

The splash of emotions is the reset of excess emotional energy in speech, expression and actions. This is a free, without internal control and obstacles, energetic ejection of negativity and the release of emotional stress.

Shouting your anger, swearing from the heart, hitting or kicking the offender — these are options for a splash of emotions. Strictly speaking, splashing out joy in laughter or wide hugs is also here, but usually under the splash of emotions they mean a surge of negative emotions, or more precisely, a surge (detente) of real or imagined aggression.

Unlike emotional response, the outburst of emotions does not mean either deep awareness, or living, or solving the problem that caused the emotions.

How to relate to splashing out negative emotions?

The outburst of negative emotions should be treated with caution. In the psychological literature, there is often a recommendation: “If you are angry and you are overwhelmed with aggression, do not suppress it in yourself, find a way to defuse it. Throw it out in words, throw it out in actions, and you will feel better.” It is both so and not so. It’s true that now from the splash, most likely it will become easier for you, and it’s not true that you should accustom yourself to this method.

See more about this in the article Defusing Aggression and Negative Emotions.

So what to do?

Developed, mentally healthy and mentally mature people solve this issue without any problems↑. A realistically thinking person, who is accustomed primarily to thinking, and not to experiencing, violent negative emotions do not often appear. In a well-mannered person, the negative emotions that have arisen do not turn into a storm, it is easy to cope with them, they are quite manageable. You don’t need to splash out anything to someone who doesn’t inflame himself, but what worries or infuriates you can be said. Restraint in behavior, the ability to restrain one’s negative feelings is an indicator of internal culture and good breeding, an indispensable attribute of a business and simply successful person. If you do not wind up emotions inside yourself, then restraint in behavior and expression of your feelings is not at all harmful. See →

How to deal with the outburst of emotions in children

The outburst of emotions by children should be treated in the same way as in the outburst of emotions by adults. Children still do not know how to manage themselves well, and children know how to manage their emotions better than adults, and future hysterical behavior should not be encouraged. See →

And if emotions are thrown out not by you, but by you?

In short, then — first draw the attention of the person to what he is doing, and ask him not to do it again. If he reacted to this normally, then help him in this, remind and support him in his efforts. If he didn’t hear you and doesn’t want to hear you, then he just needs to forbid it under the threat of a break in relations. Another thing is that most women are cowards and never do this, but that’s another matter. If you need the help of a consultant — you are here​​​​​​​.