If you force yourself all the time, turn on the will and repeat to yourself: “It is necessary! Need… Must!” — sooner or later you will get tired.
If you constantly motivate yourself, try to look for more and more “sweets”, reward yourself with cakes and buying a new iPhone, sooner or later you will start to lose both health and money.
Where is the exit? Where is the solution?
A good solution is to take care of the reasonable organization of your own life more often. If you have taught yourself to go to bed on time and get up on time, this no longer requires special efforts, you do not need to persuade yourself, you do not need to force yourself or promise yourself some additional bonuses: you just want to sleep in the evening, and in the morning you just wake up and get up, because they are accustomed not to wallow in the morning, but to get up easily. If you decide to run in the morning, you can lift yourself up over and over again with willpower or pump yourself up with bright affirmations, or you can agree with friends that you run together. And then you will naturally soon find yourself running on the street with your friends, and it’s already difficult to figure out who raised and organized and raised whom. You organized your friends, they organized you…
Coercion and motivation are usually open options for influence. The organization of life, often beginning as something completely open, soon flows into a hidden influence, into something as if imperceptible, into something natural.
For example, the walls in your apartment: strictly speaking, they control the direction of your movement when you go from the hallway to the kitchen or bedroom. But at the same time, to say that they «force» you to go a certain route … — no, the walls do not force you. We don’t even seem to notice them. They just stand where they stand, and you follow the path that the walls have built. This is the organization of life.
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