Why do men seek sexual services? Maybe it’s the partners who do not allow them to realize their fantasies? Or is it that they themselves are not ready to open up and allow themselves close, trusting, long-term relationships?
Here is another common stereotype: the sexual desire in men is so violent and so overwhelmed that after meeting with a partner, a man is inevitably disappointed, because she is not able to fully satisfy him.
Is it not for this reason, many believe, that prostitution has existed since time immemorial and is supposedly indispensable without it? Add to this another cliché, according to which a man has so many sexual fantasies that he cannot fulfill them all with one partner. Or here’s another: a prostitute, experienced in intimate caresses, can teach a man a lot.
But how does it really work? A professional woman very rarely expresses her readiness to fulfill any whim of a client, because nothing is so “regulated” as the services of a prostitute.
Yes, of course, any position is acceptable, but the session usually lasts only a few minutes. But it is in long-term relationships, in their development, that you can master the whole gamut of sexual games and realize all your fantasies, reaching an amazing mutual understanding!
And in general, what kind of frustration are we talking about? Perhaps a man who goes to a prostitute feels unable to show his masculine power.
Perhaps he perceives his sexuality as potential aggression, so he does not feel free with his beloved woman. Or he is afraid of his partner’s reaction to his sexual fantasies. Perhaps he perceives her love and passionate desire as fetters and seeks to exclude sexuality from his relationship.
Frustrated men could take a mistress… but prefer to pay to save themselves from any obligations
The more restrained, shy and constrained a man is in everything related to sex, the more difficult it is for him to maintain his composure and the less controlled his desire seems to be. And vice versa, the calmer he is, the easier it is for him to realize his passion both in sex and in other areas.
Thus, we are really talking about frustration (tension, anxiety), but of a different kind: the one that is associated with the serene acceptance of the partner’s oncoming feelings, with the essence of the couple’s existence.
After all, the so-called frustrated men could have a mistress … but they prefer to pay in order to get the opportunity to possess the body of a woman, to save themselves from any duties.
Of course, we are in no way going to condemn those who try to avoid relationships without giving up sex. But it would be a mistake to think that a prostitute’s bed can serve as a place for the realization of all the most daring fantasies.
After all, pleasure is not only a physiological act. It is also the result of our ideas about ourselves and how our partner perceives us and our sexuality. That is, feelings and meanings are born in relationships. Then is it any wonder that someone dreams of becoming the favorite client of a mental prostitute who will eventually stop charging him money for a great time?