Becoming an Elite woman is the goal of any girl familiar with the synthon approach. This is absolutely necessary in order to meet your elite man and create a happy family. It is necessary to develop oneself in all respects — an axiom with which one does not want to argue. However, attempts to project the image of an elite woman-man onto a specific person for some reason turns out to be difficult. There are few living examples.
Recently, my colleague Anatoly Pisarevsky and I discussed this topic, trying to find an elite man among acquaintances and strangers. It turned out that the candidates do not pass — who by appearance (wealthy and good person, but pot-bellied / unkempt), who by manners (wealthy and attractive, but treats people badly), who by the level of earnings (attractive and good, but does not know how to earn money) ). The situation is the same with ladies. There are options:
- spectacular, but narrow-minded (according to statistics — more often millionaires have such wives);
- beautiful in soul, not in body (according to statistics, such wives are more often among poor people);
- smart physically and spiritually (according to statistics — more often lonely).
Each «living» candidate for the title of Elite has at least one «but», due to which he cannot be attributed to the elite.
Consider the criteria for an Elite Woman proposed at the Psychologos.
What else can you call it? Standard, ideal, perfection? And if this perfection, to which we all aspire, exists, then how likely is it that her spouse is a person of such a high level in all respects? Not in theory, but in practice. Yes, and for those who, albeit with a stretch, but can be ranked among the elite, it is not always important that the partner is perfect in everything.
From all this we have drawn a conclusion. There is not one type of Elite male/female, but three. Even four, given the image of the Standard, which combines the features of all three types.
This is how you can decompose the features of an elite woman into these types:
For some people, appearance is more valuable. Such people will themselves look perfect and look for partners with similar values. It is a pleasure to look at these couples — they are chic, fit, refined in manners, impeccable in style. A man who takes care of himself, first of all, notices well-groomed and stylish girls. Beautiful women like beautiful men. At the same time, they do not always know how to build relationships, and they are not always good businessmen and leaders.
For other people, the work is more valuable. This is either a business or something else that inspires, in which people invest their energy, time, money, life. For such people, it is important that the partner does not live in vain, but has a business in which he succeeds. As a rule, this brings good income and great connections. Composers, writers, athletes. Or a combination: he is successful in business, she is in creativity, or vice versa. Or they have a common cause. At the same time, the appearance of partners is not so important.
The third type is relationship. It is important for them that the partner was close mentally and understood perfectly. They have similar values - syntony and love. It can be said about such people that they have an ideal relationship, that they love each other. Unlike the first type (“beautiful”, love themselves) and the second type (“smart”, love the business), these people really love each other. These are the strongest families.
When all three components (they love and develop themselves, each other and business) unite, an Elite family is created. This is a lot of work and a lot of luck. If you were not born into an aristocratic family, where all aspects of eliteness are instilled from childhood, then the path to this level will not be short and simple. And there is the prospect of working on eliteness until old age and remaining alone. Therefore, first of all, you need to understand what is more important for you in a partner — aesthetics, business or sincerity. You can go from the opposite — that in a partner is a criterion that is unacceptable to you. Can he be ugly, poor or cold? Once you’ve figured it out, prioritize yourself. Develop, first of all, those qualities that are important for such a person. And then you can already grow together, adding elitism in other features and striving for excellence.
Video from Yana Shchastya: interview with professor of psychology N.I. Kozlov
Topics of conversation: What kind of woman do you need to be in order to successfully marry? How many times do men get married? Why are there so few normal men? Childfree. Parenting. What is love? A story that couldn’t be better. Paying for the opportunity to be close to a beautiful woman.