Almost all couples go through crises. Some manage to overcome them and maintain affection, others break up. Sometimes the cooling is temporary and everything can be fixed, but in some cases it is better to leave than to continue the relationship through force.
There are no identical relationships, some love each other all their lives, others diverge. It so happens that attraction disappears for someone after years, and for someone sooner. We sink into a routine, a feeling of stagnation sooner or later leads to alienation.
Of course, I would like everything to be “as before”. So that butterflies in the stomach and it is impossible to open the arms. This is the highest point of attraction, when you literally cannot live without this person. But time passes, and the partner ceases to seem attractive. You may be asking yourself: what happened?
As you grew as a person and achieved something, the relationship only grew stronger because you learned new things and gained experience together. But in this case, you can become strangers. One day you just felt that the former intimacy is gone. Love is not easy, there are no universal solutions. But you need to figure out what is happening between you, then it will become clear what to do next. True love is worth fighting for, you need to understand what signs indicate the possibility of a break.
1. Everything annoys you. Previously, you liked how they sip soup or run to hug, but now every little thing gets on your nerves: the way they look, dress, talk. Are there deeper reasons behind the irritation?
2. Think about others. For example, like a colleague or friend. When you think about them, butterflies flutter in your stomach, and you don’t want to drive away these thoughts at all. But the current partner is no longer interesting. Perhaps the person is just bored, his habits are unnerving, or you just moved away from each other. But everything is in order with your libido, it’s just that you are no longer attracted to this particular person.
3. Do not understand what was found in it. Thinking about the first meeting, you cannot understand why the person seemed attractive, why they paid attention to him. So, it’s time to figure out where the feelings have gone. You have to start somewhere, right? Try to dig a little in your memory, remember what your partner once attracted you to?
4. Infuriates every word of a partner. As soon as he opens his mouth, you expect in advance that another nonsense will sound, even if your opinions coincide. Such emotional tension suggests that you are ready to delete a person from life and do not want to know what he thinks.
5. You don’t miss him. In the beginning, when you had to leave for a day, you couldn’t wait to see each other. Now you can leave for several days or weeks, and never once remember a person, not find out how he is doing. If you are not bored in separation, this may mean that you have nothing to do together.
6. You want to spend more and more time apart. Usually in couples the opposite is true, but you prefer to defend the right to privacy. Time passes, the distance between you increases. This is not a sign of a healthy relationship, you want to say goodbye.
7. Do not see a partner in the future. At first, the future without him seemed impossible, all thoughts and aspirations were connected with him. Now you do not consider it necessary to report on plans and do not need approval. Ready to leave, the last step remains.
8. You avoid communication. Before, you called every day and told what you were doing and what interesting things happened. Now I don’t want to share anything. And for advice, you’re more likely to go to someone else. This one is no longer the one you would have contacted first, he has become the last one on the list. Frankness implies intimacy, and if there is none, a break is not far off.
9. You don’t have fun together. Once upon a time, you fell out of laughter at good jokes, but now you can hardly fake a smile. This is a signal that the attraction has disappeared, the spark has gone out. If a person cannot make you laugh, why keep the relationship? A sense of humor is a huge plus, perhaps for this you fell in love with a partner.
Sometimes we are not sure about sensations and cannot figure out what they mean. If you feel that your partner is becoming a stranger, you have something to talk about.