In old age, many deteriorate character.
The woman writes: “The behavior of our elderly parents began to resemble the purposeful eating of their own children (us, we live not far from them). Criticism, resentment, growing control, anger, tears and tantrums, constant dissatisfaction at least. Attempts to say that this is incomprehensible and difficult lead to the complication of behavior. The more attention to them, the stronger the «return». This is bad, but, honestly, there is no desire to go out with my father and mother for any contact, so as not to get unpleasant experiences.
This is a typical situation.
What to do? There is a solution, but it requires great desire and activity: not to avoid contact with parents, but to go ahead and shape each situation: set the topic, set intonations, reinforce every moment of the desired behavior, and so on. Several of my pupils and pupils were re-educated in this way to their parents, read for example Polina Sukhova “A wonderful declaration of love”.