On the first of September, in the school yard, the parents of first-graders can be seen immediately. And it is immediately clear that they are satisfied: “We have done everything for our future: we are on the threshold of the school we so wanted to go to.”
Indeed, it takes a lot of effort and nerves. To get into the “right” school, others are ready to “hold back” or rush their child for a whole year. But now everything is behind us, and we are standing in the crowd of parents, looking with tenderness at our first grader. We are sure that from now on and for 11 years ahead, our life is predetermined: rest, entertainment, and even illness are now directly related to the school.
In primary school, half of the children cough from autumn to spring, but courageously go to class. Sometimes you can meet a mother in the corridor, who leads a child filled with snot for one lesson: he will write a control and go on to recover. Why such extremes, why not leave the child alone? We are just afraid. Do not «correspond» to the level of the school, that the child will not fit into the team, that will lag behind the program.
We will still have the opportunity to change what does not suit us. it’s just important to know when it’s best to do it
No need to be afraid, twitch and pull the children. There will be a million more tests and dictations that they will write. By the fifth grade, the attitude — both ours and the child’s — to the school will change: there will be new teachers, subjects, friends, interests. Priorities will change — you can’t list everything. In secondary school, they will inevitably begin to study worse: this is due to an increase in physical and emotional stress, and most importantly, to the fact that in adolescence, communication is more important for a child than lessons.
And in high school, the child, already roughly understanding what he is, will begin to think about the future. Education will again come to the fore: tutors, courses, external students — and it will be a completely different life, where the school is not at all the first and not the second place.
Let’s rejoice on the first of September, but let’s not worry too much if we suddenly realize that we have unsuccessfully chosen a school for the child: he is not attached to it, like a serf to the land! There is always an opportunity to overplay — it is important to simply understand when it is better to do it. Let’s say you shouldn’t change schools in the seventh grade, at the peak of teenage communication, but in the fifth or ninth — please, this can (and sometimes you need to) do this in order to expand the child’s social circle, give him the opportunity to build relationships in different teams.
Life goes on, sets new tasks, and our main parental business is to communicate with our children. And let’s remember that school is still not the main thing that is and should be in their life.