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Every year new sex tips appear on websites for women. To follow them or not, whether they are useful or harmful – we asked a family psychologist about this.
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On the eve of the New Year, you may be thinking about what you were going to do in 2021, planned in 2020, did not complete in 2019, and so on. But there are areas where it is better to keep promises to yourself. If you’ve been thinking about how to make your sex hotter in 2022, then here are a few ideas on how to do it.
Kiss and kiss again!
You won’t have hot and passionate sex until you’re a really good kisser. Do not imitate the character of Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman by avoiding kisses on the lips. Instead, make sure that kissing turns you and your partner on, and head to bed in that mood.
Refresh your linen
Not sure if you’re ready to show your partner your underwear and are afraid that because of this you will have to turn down an offer to have sex? It’s time to kick Bridget Jones out of your life. Invest in lingerie that makes you feel sexy.
Wear it not only on those days when the opportunity to have sex is great. The meeting can happen at any moment – but you don’t want fate to find you in an unsightly way?
Break free from inhibitions
If you want sex, don’t be silent. Speak up. Forget about all these “would he want to invite me to bed” and have your say.
If you’ve spent a lot of time all these years wondering if it’s right to tell your partner that you want sex, put aside your doubts. Say a big and sincere goodbye to your prim twin!
Don’t pretend
Sometimes you are really good, sometimes not so good. Stop being afraid to hurt him by telling the truth – that you never reached an orgasm. Sometimes we pretend a little, and this is quite acceptable if in most cases we experience pleasure with this man. But don’t make it a habit. It’s helpful to give him feedback that you haven’t gotten what you want yet.
Keep condoms handy
If you’re thinking about inviting him to stay the night, but it’s getting late and he hasn’t made any protection, you can surprise him by taking a box of condoms out of your nightstand or makeup bag. This will save both of you a lot of time and effort.
Condoms are sold in compact packages that are easy to take with you if you go somewhere … after all, sex can happen outside of your home. So take them with you. It certainly won’t do any harm.
Don’t give up sex even if you haven’t shaved your legs
It’s time to say goodbye to the fixed idea that sex is only allowed if your whole body is flawlessly smooth. No man in his right mind would refuse sex because you have hair growing under your armpits. Believe me, when men are looking forward to sex, they do not care about such trifles. So it’s time to forget about this nonsense.
Oral sex should be mutual
Yes, if you are so generous that you are ready to give him oral pleasure, then he should repay you in kind. The law of “quid pro quo” applies here: there is no reason why you should not enjoy yourself.
Look for the best
If you have been afraid to try something new until now, then consider that 2022 is the time to say goodbye to these fears. Yes, you may have been quite happy with sex with your ex, but think about this: if you had not once tried to make love to him for the first time, you would hardly have achieved the pleasure that you have now lost. Maybe it’s time to look for something better.
“You should be guided only by your desires”
Inna Shifanova, family psychologist
The good thing about the list of tips presented here is that it allows rather than prescribes. But the paragraph about oral sex seemed strange to me. It seems to me that demands are inappropriate in bed, as well as trading like “if you are then I am that.” Two things are important here: to express your desires and not to do what you do not want. And the form for such messages is better to choose the most delicate.
In general, advice of this kind can be useful for those of us who are not fully aware of our desires or do not dare to admit them to ourselves. Reading other people’s notes and recommendations, we compare them with our own thoughts on this topic and better understand what we want. And these are theirs! – desires and should be guided.
In any case, the final decision about what to do and how to act on New Year’s Eve (as well as at other times) is made only by you. All other opinions and votes are deliberative.