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Barracks parenting style
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The “narrow corridor” model of education sets the task of regulating the life and behavior of a child (pupil) as strictly as possible, unambiguously transferring his point A to point B.
Clever, strong and loving parents (educators) can someday arrange for children (pupils) a situation of strict instructions and tight control: if necessary and in the interests of the child. As a temporary educational measure, this is appropriate, and to arrange a month of “nothing but study” before children enter a university is more likely to help children. The “Narrow Corridor” model in a positive version sounds like an army parenting style, and just parents can raise a warrior from a strong child with the help of such a model — strict to himself and disciplined. In this style, the training of special forces traditionally takes place, where the military is prepared for extreme loads and readiness, if necessary, to give their lives without hesitation.
For many centuries it was in this style that life was built in monasteries, where strict discipline was not only an everyday basis for survival, but also a part of bodily and spiritual asceticism.
Due to the many shades and variety of situations, the results of the Narrow Corridor educational model are very ambiguous. It happens that it is in such conditions that future warriors grow up: “They beat us, but we grow stronger. And whatever doesn’t break us makes us stronger.» Unfortunately, it happens that the same system breaks people, and then a person grows up who is afraid of everything, an inactive being. On what does this or that result depend? First of all, from the competence of the educator. In the hands of ordinary parents, this model more often brings up fear and inactivity in children; in the hands of a master, this method forges a strong character in a person. Sometimes the Narrow Corridor model is a forced measure: at some ages, with some difficult children, another method simply will not work. In particular, children like to test adults for strength, and if an adult cannot show that he is the elder in this situation, children begin to command. In these cases, adults need to show firmness and restore order.
Unfortunately, the Narrow Corridor model is familiar to many in its most negative form. When a narrow corridor begins to be built between punishments, especially when there are more and more punishments, and the corridor is getting narrower, the “Narrow Corridor” turns into a barracks, or even a concentration camp. A concentration camp is not a spiritual place: a child is surrounded by many prohibitions, he cannot do everything. Don’t walk, don’t shout, don’t run, sit, don’t touch, take your hands away, don’t make noise, be quiet, don’t come near, “What I said, put it down immediately!”
At first, the child was taught to walk and talk, then they are taught to sit and be silent, and in general, “so that I don’t see or hear you!”, Like, “disappear.”
For any violations, punishments immediately and inevitably follow: once deprivation of your favorite games, once name-calling, screaming, slapping and in a corner. Only a narrow corridor is left for the child, where it is impossible to be distracted and make mistakes: a step to the left or a step to the right — execution … The educational task of the barracks and concentration camps is not just discipline, but unquestioning obedience.
It should be taken into account that prohibitions may not be explicit, but hidden, and punishment — through the formation of a sense of guilt, as in the option «Please don’t make mom angry.»
Not all parents arrange a concentration camp consciously, many do not notice how it happens with them, and get upset when they realize: “Yes, my main role is an overseer.” For another part of the parents, this is a conscious ideology, they are convinced that it is right and normal to raise children this way: “Children need to be flogged while they lie across the bench.”
In a modern secular society, the use of such a model can be justified (not in terms of slaps, but in terms of extremely strict discipline) in corrective work with offenders who understand only the language of force, and drug addicts.
Sometimes drug addicts have to be chained to an iron bed and deprived of food for several days, only in this mode can they withstand withdrawal.
One way or another, the Narrow Corridor parenting model is controversial. In local, difficult situations, it can be the only right decision, while it is not recommended for ordinary parents with normal children to arrange the “Narrow Corridor” for children as a way of life.
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