Scandals, rudeness, alcohol and drugs, problems with the police, depression and suicide attempts… Psychologist Nigel Latta collected the most difficult situations faced by parents of teenagers and… tried to destroy their illusions.
Scandals, rudeness, alcohol and drugs, problems with the police, depression and suicide attempts… Psychologist Nigel Latta collected the most difficult situations faced by parents of teenagers and… tried to destroy their illusions. Not everyone will like this, but parents of teenagers, most often, are already not up to illusions, because they are faced with problems for which they cannot find solutions. Latta explains to adults what is really happening with their children now, convincingly writes, for example, that the hormonal storm that covers the body of a teenager makes him an inadequate person for several years: the prefrontal cortex of the brain, which is responsible for logic, behavior control and assessment of the consequences of their actions, at least until the age of 20, does not work in full force. That is why teenagers constantly take risks and commit all conceivable follies and stupidities. What to do if a person lives in your house who is not responsible for his actions? Help him and protect him (often from himself). Build a clear system of rules, maintain your authority and build good relationships without playing «best friend». Why? “You can’t be both a friend and a parent. Parents do what friends cannot and will not do. Parents make difficult decisions and parents can say no.”
Ripol Classic, 352 p.