The father of many children published a letter – a cry from the heart on a social network. But, oddly enough, I did not find support there.
The father of three children decided to share his pain with numerous readers of one of the forums of the social network Reddit. The guy is only 27 years old, but he and his wife are already expecting their fourth child.
“We make good money, are financially independent, so we decided on another baby,” he explains.
But the fourth pregnancy of the wife was given to the man more difficult than the others. Although, it would seem, it is not he who walks with a belly.
“Every pregnancy of my wife was a real nightmare for me. I woke up almost every morning from the fact that she was sick in the toilet. I run to the store every day to buy her something that she suddenly wanted to eat: I can’t refuse her. Every night I give her a soak for her tired and swollen legs. I’m tired of all this.
My job demands a lot more of me than of her. I am a plumber and my wife is an engineer. And I work more on time. Therefore, it seems to me that we both invest a lot in each child. I seem to be pregnant too, ”the man complains.
And everything would be fine. He meekly prepares the baths, runs to the store, works, regularly brings money into the house. But the guy lacks one single joy: an hour a day to spend on video games.
“I don’t help my wife around the house. No, I do the laundry, take out the trash, mow the lawn, pay the housekeeper who comes in once a week and does the cleaning. The wife is engaged in cooking and washing dishes. The mother-in-law helps with the children. Every time she comes, she says that I am useless. No, I appreciate her help, but I’m tired of these claims. Just because I only want one hour a day for myself does not mean that I am useless, ”he writes.
The situation reached a boiling point when his wife shouted at him from the kitchen: “Get your ass and take the twins while I cook the meatloaf.”
“I said something stupid in response. Said we ate meatloaf twice this week, this will be the third. And she told me everything she thinks: that I don’t give a damn about the fact that she is pregnant, that I do not sympathize with her at all, that I do little around the house, and I don’t even breastfeed. I reminded her that I have to work much harder, so we get tired in about the same way. After that, she doesn’t talk to me, ”said the father of many children.
Netizens did not sympathize with the man. On the contrary, they rushed to explain to him in the comments how wrong he was: it is very difficult to bear a child, and he is picky about food and refuses to take care of his own children while his wife prepares dinner for him.
“I would cook myself, but she is Asian and refuses to eat American food,” the author of the post tried to defend himself.
But he was practically torn to pieces anyway. “Wow, he is not happy that he has to hear his wife vomiting in the toilet. And she, probably, is delighted with the fact that she is sick, ”- they were indignant in the comments.
The story ended with the fact that the wife of the author of the post came across his letter. Now they will go to a psychologist together.
Interview
Who do you think is right in this story?
Woman. After all, these are their common children, why should she only deal with them?
A man could really do more at home, since his wife is taking pregnancy so hard.
Probably, the wife simply shouldn’t have been so rude to her husband, and the mother-in-law shouldn’t have run into him.
The man is right. If she has time for a foot bath, he should have time for himself.