“A cheap person spends his time cheaply, an expensive person spends his time dearly”
What have I learned to do
(from distance reports)
I stopped judging my mother for my “wrong” upbringing. She wished me well and did what she could, firmly believing that this would help me to be a good and happy person. It was not in her mind to instill in me some kind of complexes and unsuccessful programs. I can’t always be the perfect teacher for my kids either. And now, if I don’t like something, I don’t lament about why I was brought up so clumsy, I begin to change it in myself.
I learned not to criticize other people and myself too. I learned to control my facial expression and always look warmly and with interest! I learned to arouse interest in people in my soul.
I have learned to ask. A request, as you say, is also a construction of the future, and reproaches, criticism, resentment, condemnation are hanging in chewing on the past. Proslonautics is a thing of the past! As soon as I notice it in myself — thoughts about the past — I immediately stop it and start thinking about the future.
I learned to write down my goals and include strong-willed efforts. This is my active construction of the future and the iron stop of past-nautics. I learned to force myself — to act within the framework of my goals, regardless of momentary weaknesses. Sometimes it can be very difficult, because even a very desirable goal does not make all the actions on the way to it easy and most pleasant, but now knowing this, I can turn on the will.
I saw that before I was always obsessed with unpromising, in terms of serious relationships, men. No matter how successful handsome men who want to communicate with me, they may be, I first learned to clarify men’s intentions and, having clarified, I learned without worries and doubts to immediately refuse relationships with those who cannot offer me a movement towards creating a family.
I learned to evaluate myself in the marriage market and see: I am superior to the man I meet in marriage rating, or I am lagging behind, and how far behind.
I began to invest seriously and a lot in my marriage rating in order to be able to interest a high-ranking man.
I learned how to make a very beautiful make-up and create with the help of clothes not only a stylish look, but also necessarily sexy, as well as status and clearly distinguishing me from the crowd.
Previously, I was constrained to even cross a pedestrian crossing (drivers look at me from cars). Now I don’t have these thoughts. On the contrary, I began to actively attract attention to myself and start conversations with people in stores, lines, etc. I practice this all the time in order to maximize the skill of easy communication, pleasant spontaneous conversation.
Speed has appeared in my life: before — I did everything slowly, but now — everything is fast, joyful and active!
I regularly wish everyone happiness, I send hugs to people on the street, very often and warmly hug my mother, father, my relatives, girlfriends, colleagues, if possible, I keep a diary of success, and I constantly hear from people that I am the sun))).
The most important thing is that I began to appreciate Time and handle it very carefully, not to squander it in vain, to sum up the results of each quarter and year!
Comments from E.V. Goncharova
Dear girls!
On a scale of 10 to XNUMX, rate yourself on all of these skills as described by the hard-working girl.
Be sure to write down your plan for implementing the skill(s) that you give a low rating.
Speaking of hugs. A very good habit to instill in yourself! Walking down the street, communicating with people — mentally imagine how you hug them. Say to yourself that they are wonderful, pleasant, that you like them! Love them! A different energy will come from you, with which you and those around you will be happy!
It is especially useful to communicate with children and husband in this way. From such a practice, children cease to be capricious, and husbands confess their love even after thirty years of marriage.
That each of you, my dear girls, is capable of creating a small miracle — I have no doubt. But in order to create — it must be created!
Create! Create Yourself and Your Life!
I expect new impressive results from you, dear distance girls, in the new year.
Prove to yourself that you are worthy of this habit — constantly work on yourself!
Good luck to you!
Video from Yana Shchastya: interview with professor of psychology N.I. Kozlov
Topics of conversation: What kind of woman do you need to be in order to successfully marry? How many times do men get married? Why are there so few normal men? Childfree. Parenting. What is love? A story that couldn’t be better. Paying for the opportunity to be close to a beautiful woman.