When you read such stories, there is always a thought: “this could happen to anyone, but definitely not to me.” And how wrong sometimes …
My close friend is a big fan of healthy-food-near-me.com. Moreover, she does not just read stories, but always sincerely worries about the heroes of the publication. Therefore, when Sveta became pregnant, I began to hide some of the texts from her – so as not to worry once again, she really takes everything to heart.
From the outside, it always seemed that a girl who has a wonderful family, a caring husband, full prosperity and even her mother-in-law cannot get enough of her to worry, there is simply nothing to worry about. It turned out, it seemed …
One day I called and just asked her how she was doing. And Sveta in response … burst into tears.
“You know, I’m just right to write you letters to the site and ask for help from readers. I didn’t tell, but when I got pregnant, my mother-in-law turned my life into a real hell, ”she sobbed bitterly into the receiver.
Frankly, I was numb … How? Why? What could have happened in this beautiful family? She asked me to tell and could not believe my ears. With Sveta’s permission, we are publishing her story – as it is, without cuts.
“I got married three years ago. And all this time I was very happy. True, she rarely saw her husband. He went on watch with me. But with the mother-in-law, with whom they lived together, there was a real idyll. We never quarreled, did not sort out the relationship, she did not even lecture me – she only gave advice, and even then if I asked about it. Live and rejoice.
The only thing that, frankly, confused me was that Elena Sergeevna never started talking about her grandchildren. Why was it embarrassing? Well, it seems to me that all the grandmothers want them … They ask, wonder when. Some even complain about “reproductive violence” – when they press, insist that it’s time, the clock is ticking. But ours was not like that. However, in the end, I decided that my second mother was just very tactful and did not go in with questions. How wrong I was then …
She got pregnant as planned. We guessed, calculated, and after the next visit of my husband, the test showed two strips. Slava was on watch at that time, and I decided to tell all my mother-in-law myself – with whom else to share my joy, if not with family members? However, she did not notice the joy on her face. However, she again decided that it was due to an excess of emotions. And… again I was very wrong.
The attitude towards me began to change the very next day. Do not think, I did not expect that someone would lisp with me. Pregnancy is not a disease. But something strange began: every evening, leaving work, I began to receive a long list of things to buy from Elena Sergeevna, and dragged home heavy bags. At the same time, she herself went to the shops, but all the time she “forgot something”.
Then she decided to do a rearrangement. Moving the sofa – it got to me. Itself did not lift a finger. She was generally replaced. She began to jerk me, shout at me, find fault with me, even allowed herself direct insults – they say, I move like a sleepy fly, lakhudra has become, lazy, I live on everything ready, even though it was not true. She spoke the most offensive words in private, and no one heard them anyway, which means they would not believe.
I tried to find out the reason for this change. I asked questions. But in response, she only received more and more aggression.
Meanwhile, Slava was closed in the rotational camp due to the coronavirus pandemic, and we were left alone with my mother-in-law for another two months. And here the real nightmare began.
From the very morning in the house there was a smell of fried fish, garlic, adjika – Elena Sergeevna did not turn on the hood. And with my toxicosis, such smells are a lethal number, I was sick day and night. What am I, and a healthy person would feel bad. Another time she said that she had forgotten the keys at work, took mine – they say, she would return earlier anyway. As a result, I waited 40 minutes for her in the rain, she did not even pick up the phone.
Well, in the end, Elena Sergeevna decided to have a pet. But not a kitten, not a puppy, not a hamster, and not even a snake. She brought home a hefty tarantula spider! And you know about my phobia, I can’t even see them in the picture. God! How I was shaking! How I sobbed!
That incident became the peak point. The next morning I went to the hospital with the threat of miscarriage, from where I called my husband. I don’t know what they later talked about with their mother, but when I left the hospital, Elena Sergeevna met me calmly. There were no spiders at home, and homemade chicken and vegetables were being cooked on the stove.
That evening we sat down to talk … It was difficult. Words didn’t come. But it was important for me to understand what I had done wrong. Is it just that she got pregnant? It turned out – yes.
Elena Sergeevna talked a lot. Confused and incomprehensible. But then she suddenly blurted out that “I always thought that I would devote my life to her son”, as she did herself, and “now he will have to work even more”. That she personally, in principle, did not want to become a grandmother and was terrified that she would be called that.
But the main thing is that thirty years ago she was told that as soon as her first grandson was born, she would be paralyzed …
Rave? Rave! But the mother-in-law believed in him sacredly. It’s no wonder that I turned for her into a source of all sorts of troubles and evil as soon as I got pregnant.
In the morning Slava returned from a business trip. And three days later we moved out to a rented apartment. Now we hardly communicate with my mother-in-law. My husband took my side, but, it seems, still did not believe that his mother could behave this way. And what should I do now? The past relationship cannot be restored, however, it would be strange not to meet with the husband’s mother at all. After all, my daughter is her first granddaughter. Her blood.
I read so much about the relationship between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law, but nowhere did I find any advice on how to be in my situation. Maybe someone found themselves in a similar position? I still have a month before giving birth … What if it is really possible to change something? “